Quotes About Honesty

There is no courage without vulnerability.

but I think we've lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we're feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage. Heroics is often about putting our life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line. In today's world, that's pretty extraordinary.1

To me, this quality of being who you are regardless of who you are with seems to be the very essence of authenticity—the result of being natural, sincere, spontaneous, open and genuine.

When we find ourselves zigzagging—hiding out, pretending, avoiding, procrastinating, rationalizing, blaming, lying—we need to remind ourselves that running is a huge energy suck and probably way outside our values. At some point, we have to turn toward vulnerability and make that call.

recognize the beauty in truth and tenacity.

It's helpful to think of lying as a defiance of the truth and bullshitting as a wholesale dismissal of the truth.

Be brave" is tied to the courage-building work presented in this book. Here is an example of three behaviors that support that value: I set clear boundaries with others. I lean into difficult conversations, meetings, and decisions. I talk to people, not about them.

What makes this more difficult is that now we have a new level of awareness about what it means to be brave. We can't fake it anymore. We now know when we're showing up and when we're hiding out, when we are living our values and when we are not.

Tell me more—what are you thinking?" and respect his truth as a full truth, not just an off version of my truth.

La voluntad de dar la cara nos hace cambiar; nos hace un poco más valientes cada vez.

Heroics is important and we certainly need heroes, but I think we've lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we're feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage.

Courage originally meant "To speak one's mind by telling all one's heart." Over time, this definition has changed, and, today, courage is more synonymous with being heroic.

Se eu tivesse que escolher uma forma de traição que tenha aparecido com muita frequência em minha pesquisa e que tenha se mostrado a mais perigosa em termos de corrosão do elo de confiança em um relacionamento, eu mencionaria o descompromisso.

Fess up to experiencing shame or admit that you're a sociopath. Quick note: This is the only time that shame seems like a good option.

elements of trust emerged from our data, and we use the acronym BRAVING: Boundaries: You respect my boundaries, and when you're not clear about what's okay and not okay, you ask. You're willing to say no. Reliability: You do what you say you'll do. At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations

Sometimes choosing being real over being liked is all about playing it unsafe.

When we charge headlong into big decisions, it may be because we don't want to know the answers that will emerge from doing due diligence. We know that fact-finding might lead us away from what we think we want.

I can definitely say, "Hi. My name is Brené, and today I'd like to deal with vulnerability and uncertainty with an apple fritter, a beer and cigarette, and spending seven hours on Facebook." That feels uncomfortably honest.

On a cultural level, I think the absence of honest conversation about the hard work that takes us from lying facedown in the arena to rising strong has led to two dangerous outcomes: the propensity to gold-plate grit and a badassery deficit.

To love with any level of intensity and honesty is to become vulnerable. I used to tell couples getting married that the only thing I could tell them with certainty was that they would hurt each other. To love is to know the loss of love. Heartbreak is unavoidable unless we choose not to love at all. A lot of people do just that.

We can't get to our brave new ending if we start from an inauthentic place.

Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them. Living

Cultivating authenticity: letting go of

Honest conversations about shame can change the way we live, love, parent, work, and build relationships. We have thousands of letters and emails from readers that all say the same thing: "I can't believe how much just naming and talking about shame changed my life!