Quotes About Self

Behind manifest grandiosity, there constantly lurks depression, and behind a depressive mood there often hide unconscious (or conscious but split off) fantasies of grandiosity. In fact, grandiosity is the defense against depression, and depression is the defense against the deep pain over the loss of the self.

fact, grandiosity is the defense against depression, and depression is the defense against the deep pain over the loss of the self that results from denial.

In what is described as depression and experienced as emptiness, futility, fear of impoverishment, and loneliness can usually be recognized as the tragic loss of the self in childhood, manifested as the total alienation from the self in the adult.

Accommodation to parental needs often (but not always) leads to the "as-if personality." This person develops in such a way that he reveals only what is expected of him and fuses so completely with what he reveals that one could scarcely guess how much more there is to him behind this false self.

The contents of the unconscious remain unchanged and timeless. It is only as these contents become conscious that change can begin.

The true self cannot communicate because it has remained unconscious, and therefore undeveloped, in its inner prison.

Unconnected to the life of love, uncolored by love, the world resumes its own, its natural and callous importance. This is first a blow, then an odd consolation. And already I felt my old self - my old, devious, ironic, isolated self - beginning to breathe again and stretch and settle, though all around it my body clung cracked and bewildered, in the stupid pain of loss.

My mother had not let anything go. Inside that self we knew, which might at times appear blurred a bit, or sidetracked, she kept her younger selves strenuous and hopeful; scenes from the past were liable to pop up any time, like lantern slides, against the cluttered fabric of the present.

And whatever troubled him and showed in his face might have been the same old trouble - the problem of occupying space in the world and having a name people could call you by, being somebody they thought they could know.

I know how you love this place, he says to me, apologetically yet with satisfaction. And I don't tell him that I am not sure now whether I love any place, and that it seems to me it was myself I loved here - some self that I have finished with, and none too soon.

Inside that self we knew, which might at times appear blurred a bit, or sidetracked, she kept her younger selves strenuous and hopeful; scenes from the past were liable to pop up any time, like lantern slides, against the cluttered fabric of the present.

That isn't an expression that means anything to me, really. Make a fool of yourself. How can anybody do that? How can you make a fool? Show the fool, yes, expose the fool, but isn't the fool just yourself, isn't it there all the time? Show yourself. What else can you do?

How could it be that you could love someone so much and keep it secret from yourself as you woke daily so far from home?

He wore his own innocence like a comfortable old coat.

Your sordid life is your sordid life. You shouldn't live it if you don't like it.

Peace: the fruit of justice done especially to the Self.

It is as if my self is hiding behind an iron door.

the most common way people give up there power is by thinking they don't have any

Who is it that most needs forgiving? Who is it that feels so much pain? Who is it that would really like to fly Far far away? Who is that can return Free and gentle Like the rain? It is the Self, my love, My adored one, It is the Self That even now It is running for its Life Running to its life Into the arms Of death.

The most common way people give up their power is by thinking that they don't have any.

Bueno, llega un momento en que todos hemos de empezar a cambiar si queremos mejorar. Y nuestra propia persona es lo que tenemos más a mano.

Because you are who you are, the future look happy and bright.

In an oppressive society it may well be that *all* fantasies indulged in by the oppressor are destructive to the oppressed. To become involved in them in any way at all is, at the very least, to lose time defining yourself. To isolate the fantasy we must cleave to reality, to what *we* know, *we* feel, *we* think of life. Trusting our own experience and our own lives; embracing both the dark self and the light.

It not my salvation she working for. And if she don't learn she got to face judgment for herself, she won't even have live.