Quotes About Bonding

Parenting is difficult. Without the neurobiological capacity to feel the joys of parenting, irritations and annoyances loom especially large.

A person's capacity to connect, to be regulating and regulated, to reward and be rewarded, is the glue that keeps families and communities together.

Oprah: In every single interaction, there is a moment when we all wonder, Do you see me? Do you hear me? Children know from birth whether their caregiver's eyes light up when they enter a room. They sense and respond to tenderness, playfulness, compassion, and patience. They know the true feeling of quality time. They know they are loved.

The earliest relational experiences are the most powerful and enduring.

If you are loved, you learn to love.

Yes! How were you loved—it makes all the difference. In all the conversations I've had, my experience has been that dysfunction shows up in direct proportion to how you were or were not loved.

relational connection.

Esta interconexión, asociar el placer con la interacción humana, es el «pegamento» neurobiológico esencial que vincula y crea relaciones saludables.

cuando un bebé no ve satisfecha la necesidad de este contacto reconfortante, no se crea la conexión entre el contacto humano y el placer, de

A recent wave of research shows that children who eat dinner with their families are less likely to drink, smoke, do drugs, get pregnant, commit suicide, and develop eating disorders. Additional research found that children who enjoy family meals have larger vocabularies, better manners, healthier diets, and higher self-esteem.

You know, my dad wasn't a photographer or filmmaker by profession, but on Sundays, he would take pictures of me and my family or his pals horseback riding, and it was a means of communication and affection, a means of not being so dysfunctional with each other.

Out of all the wishes on the Parental Wish List, "good memories" are one of the few that clearly depend upon how you raise your child. Don't forget it.

Are we letting her drink beer again?" "Hell yes we are, and it's hilarious.

When working with a horse, particularly a troubled horse, you'll notice that he will spend a good portion of his time avoiding contact, physical and mental.

it's impossible to undo fifteen or twenty years of learned behavior with a mother in only a few months. If it takes nine months to bring a life into this world, what makes us think we can let go of someone in less?

We mammals are uncannily good at gravitating toward those who share our hidden joys and woes. This talent for emotional homing crops up among beavers, wolves, and even deer.

On the way down the hill we walked three abreast in the cobblestone street, drunk and laughing and talking like men who knew they would separate at dawn and travel to the far corners of the earth.

hugging each other at least three times a day: once before leaving for work, a second time when arriving home, and a third time before going to sleep. If you do nothing else, hug three times—but truly hug.

at some level you remain an orphan for life; looking after children is one way of looking after yourself.

nothing, no one, beyond family reunions, near-weekly

I reached over and squeezed Curran's hand. "Come on, you, me, a platter of barely seared meat, it will be great. If we see the navigators, we can make fun of the way they hold their forks.

Why don't you use your own sword?" George asked. "He might break it." "I wouldn't." Hugh put his hand on his heart. "He would," I told George. "He's a sonovabitch." Hugh laughed. "We just met and she knows me so well.

If you prefer, I can acquire a windowless creeper van, and we can huddle in it and eat greasy take out.

I didn't have a fraternity-like experience. I mean, I grew up with an older brother and a lot of male cousins and we were very physical with each other. We were very rambunctious when we were kids. But I never thought much - nor did I have reason to think much - about institutionalized hazing. But I think there's a reason young men are drawn to it.