Quotes About Bonding

In most, but not all, families, adopted toddlers bonded sooner with siblings who were at least four years older than they were than they did with close-age siblings. It was no surprise that families who took time to include their children in the adoption process, planning, and transition of the new toddler sibling reported a much more satisfactory adjustment.

Make the rocking chair a haven, a place to concentrate totally on each other and on the developing bond.

Children who are grieving the loss of a former attachment, or are displaying ambivalence or resistance toward their adoptive parents, do not suddenly bond. Attachment doesn't just happen; it grows. How quickly depends on a number of factors, including the number and quality of prior attachments; parenting strategies; age; and the severity of pre-placement neglect or other forms of abuse. Any prognosis is at best an educated guess.

If you can't say anything good about someone, sit right here by me.

Living the same house or even working side by side doesn't guarantee togetherness. Connection requires involvement.

When you lose your freedom, you lose, first and foremost, the opportunity to choose the company you keep.

Without emotions humans wouldn't care for each other, and if they didn't care for each other, the species would have died out. To care for others is self-preservation. You care for someone and they care for you.

They talk some more, Will prompting Peter into remembering their early childhood on the barge. How their parents always went that extra mile to make their infancy special, like the time they brought a freshly killed department store Santa Clause home for their midnight Christmas feast.

The fastest way to connect is to find something in common and let that thread flourish. Similar interests are the easiest and most effective way to develop rapport or a connection.

Strangers talking over piles of books do not remain strangers for long.

When you say a friend has a sense of humor do you mean that he makes you laugh, or that he can make you laugh?

I don't believe an accident of birth makes people sisters or brothers. It makes them siblings, gives them mutuality of parentage. Sisterhood and brotherhood is a condition people have to work at.

Attachment parenting is not a passive parenting style.

Prijateljstvo se ne stvara, ono nastaje, kao i ljubav.

I guess it's their friend time?

I came across Piper deep in conversation with Jet one afternoon and when I asked her what they were talking about she shrugged and said Dog Things.

After a certain age, you felt a need not to be alone. It grew stronger, like a radio frequency, until finally it was so powerful that you were forced to do something about it.

Just the act of sleeping beside someone you liked to be with. Maybe that was love.

The minute you had kids you closed ranks. You didn't plan this in advance, but it happened. Families were like individual, discrete, moated island nations. The little group of citizens on the slab of rock gathered together instinctively, almost defensively, and everyone who was outside the walls—even if you'd once been best friends—was now just that, outsiders.

interrupted by a couple of familiar shrieks that you might hear in a restaurant when there's a large group of women at a table. Everyone here knew that shriek, which signaled the happiness of women spending time together.

I've decided that there should be a national holiday once a year, when grown children have to let their parents tuck them in one more time.

Having children had knocked it all into a different arrangement. The minute you had children, you closed ranks. You didn't plan this in advance, but it happened. Families were like individual, discrete, moated island nations.

The food was bad but the conversation was vigorous as they sat and talked about many of the campers

Greer, Zee, and Chloe were an unlikely trio, but she had heard this was typical of social life in the first weeks of college. People who had nothing in common were briefly and emotionally joined, like the members of a jury or the survivors of a plane crash