Quotes About Counseling

A good therapy helps you develop a sense of irony about your life so that when you start to repeat old and unhelpful patterns, something within you says, "There you go again; let's call this to a halt. You can do something different." Often the first step toward doing something different is developing the capacity to not act, to stay still and reflect.

In Uncommon Therapy, Jay Haley

I still love listening to people's problems. I'm still good at giving people unsolicited advice.

Sometime, the only way you can make someone listen is with your fist. This is not a technique espoused, I know by the diagnostic manuals on most therapists' shelves. Then again nobody ever said I was a therapist.

The thing about secrets, though, is that they get out. And trust me, if you've got a secret, eventually, it's going to get out. And when it does, things are probably going to turn out to be okay ... well, after some counseling, or at worst, some jail time, or - if you're a celebrity - maybe a tell-all book with a couple of talk show appearances thrown in to apologize to your disappointed fans.

We can discuss our feelings and problems without expecting people to rescue us too. We can settle for being listened to. That's probably all we ever wanted anyway.

I feel numb. Or I cry. Or I sit and stare. I listen to the same songs over and over. I can't work," I tell the therapist. "I can't get on with my life." What's her advice? "If you feel sad, cry. If you feel numb, feel that. Ninety-five dollars, please." It's the best money I ever spent, but it takes time to understand.

Talk about your problems. There's no need to feel shy. It's always good to talk about issues that concern you.

My parish priest regularly rebuilt me in counseling sessions with remarkable and simple advice.

The results of EFT, as measured in a multitude of studies, have been astoundingly positive—better, in fact, than the outcomes of any other therapy that has been offered.

Partners sometimes can see glimpses of the Demon Dialogue they're trapped in—Jim tells me he "knows" he will hear how he has disappointed Carol before she even speaks and so has put up a "wall" to keep from "catching fire"—but the pattern has become so automatic and so compelling that they cannot stop it. Most couples, however, aren't aware of the pattern that has taken hold of their relationship.

Until we address the fundamental need for connection and the fear of losing it, the standard techniques, such as learning problem solving or communication skills, examining childhood hurts, or taking time-outs, are misguided and ineffectual.

Researchers say that marital distress raises the risk for depression tenfold!

Once the client is seated, if she starts talking, let her. And pay very close attention. Often, the first things the client tells you are the most significant. If

The next question is: How will you remember what the client tells you? There are many schools of thought:

that you never let a client leave your office if you have any sense that she may do herself, or someone else, harm.

You still have a therapist. Always. And as you can probably tell, I like talking. Dr. Schneider's like a friend who charges by the hour. I'd be your friend for free.

Avoid what marital researcher John Gottman refers to as the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: defensiveness, criticism, stonewalling, and contempt. Studies show that no marriage can survive a steady diet of those emotions.

The Case against Psychotherapy Registration

Psychoanalysts seem to be long on information and short on application.

People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.

For fifteen thousand dollars, the psychiatrist has relieved me of what I had: fifteen thousand dollars...

American couples have gone to such lengths to avoid the interference of in-laws that they have to pay marriage counselors to interfere between them.

He didn't necessarily think that it was okay, but when a psychiatrist says 'okay', it just means 'I understand what you're saying.