Quotes About Self-perception

He wanted to appear bigger than he was because in his own mind, he already was.

He was gorgeous on the outside but a train wreck on the inside. I could never understand why he did not see himself the way everyone else did. Brian started Monmouth College the following

I don't know if anybody thinks of themselves as bad. We all have excuses.

In fact, studies show that people are terrible at estimating their abilities.

In fact, every word and action can send a message. It tells children—or students, or athletes—how to think about themselves. It can be a fixed-mindset message that says: You have permanent traits and I'm judging them. Or it can be a growth-mindset message that says: You are a developing person and I am interested in your development.

In fact, in the fixed mindset, adolescence is one big test. Am I smart or dumb? Am I good-looking or ugly? Am I cool or nerdy? Am I a winner or a loser? And in the fixed mindset, a loser is forever.

As a New York Times article points out, failure has been transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure). This is especially true in the fixed mindset.

However, lurking behind that self-esteem of the fixed mindset is a simple question: If you're somebody when you're successful, what are you when you're unsuccessful?

Believing that your qualities are carved in stone—the fixed mindset—creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over. If you have only a certain amount of intelligence, a certain personality, and a certain moral character—well, then you'd better prove that you have a healthy dose of them. It simply wouldn't do to look or feel deficient in these most basic characteristics.

So in the fixed mindset, both positive and negative labels can mess with your mind. When you're given a positive label, you're afraid of losing it, and when you're hit with a negative label, you're afraid of deserving it.

failure has been transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure). This is especially true in the fixed mindset.

People in a fixed mindset often run away from their problems. If their life is flawed, then they're flawed. It's easier to make believe everything's all right.

Como indica un artículo de The New York Times,32el fracaso ha pasado de ser una acción (yo fracaso) a ser una identidad (yo soy un fracasado). Esto es especialmente cierto en la mentalidad fija.

My bottom is so big it's got its own gravitational field.

This guy is, what, thirty-six and he's only now reading Franny and Zooey? And let's get real. He's not reading it. It's just a front for the Dan Browns in the bottom of his basket. Work in a bookstore and learn that most people in this world feel guilty about being who they are. I bag the Dan Brown first like it's kiddie porn and tell him Franny and Zooey is the shit and he nods

For a long time, when it's working, the drink feels like a path to a kind of self-enlightenment, something that turns us into the person we wish to be, or the person we think we are. In some ways the dynamic is simple: alcohol makes everything better, until it makes everything worse.

I never thought I'd make the pages of 'Sports Illustrated ' because I've always been skinny.

I am convinced that attitude is the key to success or failure in almost any of life's endeavors. Your attitude - your perspective, your outlook, how you feel about yourself, how you feel about other people - determines you priorities, your actions, your values. Your attitude determines how you interact with other people and how you interact with yourself.

You needn't ever make mountains out of molehills again. You have misjudged yourself. You are not who you think you are.

I don't believe people are across-the-board confident. If they are . . . well, they've misjudged the situation where there's an arrogant result. Mostly people have those few things they do well and hope those things make up for the other shit.

My excess fat scares me — it's a ticking time bomb to my body.

The fiercely competitive are fierce because they don't see themselves as competitive.

I always thought of myself as a moderate liberal, a fighter for peace and justice. I never thought of myself as being all that far out.

I'm short not blind