Quotes About Self-blame

To blame others for our misfortunes is always a victory for the nafs.

We like the idea that there's always someone responsible for any given event, because that helps us make sense of the world. We like that so much that sometimes we blame ourselves, just so that there's someone to blame. But not everything is under our control, or even anyone's control.

In any crisis, survivors will always berate themselves that they could have done more," Léna said, almost to herself. She blinked and then her sharp focus returned to Ocyrhoe. "I should get you out of Rome," she said, almost as if to herself.

It's not society that holds us back, it's ourselves. We just blame society because not only is it easier but it's a nearly impossible weight to move. This way, we don't actually have to change.

Every veteran since the first war got fucked big-time. Maybe you should stop feeling sorry for yourself. There's no war long enough or bad enough to mess up your head as bad as you messed it up yourself.

That was the dirty secret associated with her past. Not that she'd been abused but that somehow she felt that she deserved it because she'd let it happen. Even now, it shamed her, and there were times when she felt hideously ugly, as though the scars that had been left behind were visible to everyone.

It's the ones who don't blame themselves who are more likely to be guilty of wrongdoing.

Blaming yourself is perfectly normal, but it doesn't do you any good. Until you stop, unless you can stop, you'll never be able to fully recover.

So we blame ourselves for being too outspoken or too proud or too ambitious.

What the world does to you, if the world does it to you long enough and effectively enough, you begin to do to yourself. You become a collaborator, an accomplice to your own murderers, because you believe the same things they do.

Good women always think it is their fault when someone else is being offensive. Bad women never take the blame for anything.

The man who once cursed his fate, now curses himself - and pays his psychoanalyst.

Some children [and adults] conclude that a parent's [or partner's] anger is justified. It can be more painful to believe that a parent is uncontrolled, unreasonable, and spiteful than to see yourself at fault. It can be more painful to look on confusion and chaos that to make sense of a parents behavior by concluding that you deserve her punishment.

Traveling,he thought.Yes, she was traveling-away from him just as fast as she could.Oh,you deserve it, Campbell, he berated himself. You deserve to have her skip out of your life without a backward glance.

Just let yourself be broken and humiliated. Just your whole life, keep telling people, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry...

When we don't know who to hate, we hate ourselves

When we don't know who to hate, we hate ourselves.

I am the cause of all my upsets. I am my worst enemy.

She tried to tell herself he hadn't made any promises to begin with, but that made her feel like a bigger fool. He had never asked her to put her heart under his boot heels; she'd done that all on her own.

I felt sucker-punched. It wasn't God's fault Patrick had been treated worse than dirt, as I'd let myself believe. It was mine.

Some people are nobody's enemies but their own, yer know.

Sometimes you may care so much about the person who has hurt you, or be so unable to be angry with them, that you rationalize their hurtful acts by finding some basis in your own actions for their hurtful behavior; you then feel guilty rather than angry. Put in other words, you become angry with yourself rather than with the one who hurt you.

They say that depression is anger you turn on yourself, and I think women do that.

Women punish themselves for the failure to conform.