Quotes About Blame

We want to blame an individual so that everyone else is exculpated. Or we blame a historical process as a way of exonerating individuals.

Why do we spend so much of our lives making blameless people unhappy?

Is he blaming her? Does he think she led on El Captain or was having a relationship with him at the same time as Bradwell? She turns and wals, unsteadily, along the walls of the airship, to the door in the cabin, now almost overhead, that leads outside.

Surely there must be something they had said, or done, surely there must be some mistake they had made, surely they must be guilty of something, some obscure crime, perhaps, of which they were not even aware.

Was it their face, in fact, for which they were guilty? Did it fail to please in some way? Worse yet, did it offend? IN

Don't punish me for what you see as your own failings.

it is neither helpful nor accurate to assume that other people are always responsible for our pain.

Billie Jo threw the pail, they said. An accident, they said.

Whether we forget something we are not proud of, or embellish it, or blame somebody else, we want to save face by not owning up to shortcomings.

Others are responsible for the trouble I am in—so I am entitled to repair. And what kind of repair would it be, if I made all the effort! Naturally, only a person who has lost constructive interest in his life can argue that way. It is no longer up to him to do something about his life; it is up to "them," or to fate.

Because any misbehavior in a younger child was always the fault of the older. That was how a family worked.

When wars end, all the shit comes tumbling out. People talk, point fingers at each other, reveal things they've kept quiet for years.

but instead of apologizing, I said, 'It's your own fault for playing tennis.

see this with abused children sometimes, where, as a form of self-defense, they've learned to read mood and nuance better than the typical child. They absorb an incredible amount of blame to keep the peace. They are the ultimate survivors.

I opened my mouth to say what a horrible accident, that I was an idiot, that I hadn't been looking where I was going and it was all my fault and blah-blah-blah, but instead of apologizing, I said, 'It's your own fault for playing tennis.

I guess you can go into all that feminist bullshit about how women should be able to do whatever they want to do and men should just get used to it, but . . ." Lena paused again. "It's like this," she said. "If I parked my car in the middle of Atlanta with the windows rolled down and the keys in the ignition, whose fault is it when somebody steals it?

We see this with abused children sometimes, where, as a form of self-defense, they've learned to read mood and nuance better than the typical child. They absorb an incredible amount of blame to keep the peace. They are the ultimate survivors.

children sometimes, where, as a form of self-defense, they've learned to read mood and nuance better than the typical child. They absorb an incredible amount of blame to keep the peace. They are the ultimate survivors." Faith

The addict's credo: It's always somebody else's fault.

Faith gripped the steering wheel. "I hate rape cases. You don't throw a murder case to a jury and they ask, 'Well, was the guy really murdered or is he lying because he wants the attention? And what was he doing in that part of town? And why was he drinking? And what about all those murderers he dated before?

Some Other Dude Did It

The blame generally has to fall somewhere, Miss Armstrong. Women and the Jews tend to be first in line, unfortunately.

The Germans were victims of the Nazis too, but one can't say that too loudly, of course.

I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability.