Quotes About Blame

Per colpa sua, le illusioni che fanno dell'esistenza qualcosa di più d'una somma di cose routinarie, si erano spente. A tratti, mi sentivo un vecchio.

Gentlemen never get the blame in such circumstances. You should know that.

Ouch! What are you doing, Karl, you broke my skull!

People who can cope take responsibility for things. Which means they need to have had them coming. The alternative is too terrifying: that bad things can just happen to them. It will be you the icicle falls on from twenty storeys up. You waiting for the bus when a motorist has a stroke and mounts the curb. To have been available to disaster once means to be permanently without a roof. Unless it was somehow your fault.

Teresa blames herself for believing that she was indispensable to Mahmoud. Pride goeth before a fall.

The new trash who'd suddenly come into money and liked to rub your nose into it? They didn't care. They didn't notice. Until one of their own goes ill. Then it's a sodding emergency. Some privileged prat starts feeling poorly and then it's call out the Marines, start looking for someone to blame

Tinham sido três tentativas, três falhanços, três restaurantes. Felizmente ainda era novo, e portanto podia descansadamente culpar outros fatores pela minha baixa percentagem de sucesso: maus donos, má localização, clientes feios, decoração horrível… Não me incomodava. Ainda tinhas esperanças.

But don't think that it's a system or a culture or a state or a person that does the letting down. It's our expectations that let us down. It begins in the warmth of the womb and the discovery that it's cold outside. But it's not the cold's fault that it's cold.

When you are guilty, it is not your sins you hate but yourself.

I knew there was never anyone to blame when people get into drugs. They're always responsible for their own behavior, and it's not the dealer, it's not the friend, it's not the bad influence, it's not the childhood.

In the break-up of a marriage the world inclines to take the side of the partner with most vitality, rather than the one apparently least to blame.

CHAPTER XXXVIII 'YOU ARE SO SEVERE

Wise people, when they are in the wrong, always put themselves right by finding fault with the people against whom they have sinned.

For the King's distaste at the idea of a mistress, Marie Antoinette can hardly be blamed; yet somehow she was turned into the scapegoat of this upsetting of the natural order of things-as the French court saw it.

Alliances are complicated enough in victory, but in defeat they are bound to produce the worst recriminations imaginable.

And since most of us have self-justifying images we're carrying around with us, most people are already in a defensive posture, always ready to defend their self-justifying images against attack. So if I'm in the box, blaming others, my blame invites them to do — what?

What I need most when I'm in the box is to feel justified. Justification is what my box eats, as it were, in order to survive. And if I'd spent my whole night, and really a lot longer even than that, blaming my son, what did I need from my son in order to feel 'justified,' to feel 'right'?

The culture of blame that is so prevalent in organizations is replaced with a culture of deep responsibility-taking and accountability.

Helpful skills and techniques aren't very helpful if they're done in the box. They just provide people with more-sophisticated ways to blame.

I think about all the time I spent vigilant, preoccupied, trying to decipher my mother's relationship with Marcus, Lucy's relationship with alcohol. It had never occurred to me that both situations were whatever they were, whether I figured them out or not. And it had certainly never crossed my mind that my reaction—my suffering—was mine: something I had come up with, not something I needed to blame on anyone else.

Si. La vida toma el partido de la vida y culpa a les víctimas. Pero no fueron los MEJORES los que sobrevivie ron ni los que murieron. Fue al AZAR.

Never attribute to malevolence what is merely due to incompetence.

My wife killed herself. He said, My wife took her life, like a rhyme. Do you blame yourself? She had often said it, that she would. She'd had every kind of treatment. Eventually it becomes hard to know how to handle it. Like Dora: I can always die, always die. Caro said, There is the damage on both sides.

It was going to happen sooner or later, in any case, Eleanor said. But of course no matter when it happened it was going to be my fault.