Quotes About Commitment

The start of work means the end to freedom, but also to doubt, intensity and wayward desires.

Asumption: monogamy is the natural state of love.(...) It is not! It is an infantile idealism to wish to find everything in one other being

Wat hield deze liefdespermanentie in? Een zeker geloof in de liefde van de ander, dat zonder onmiddellijk bewijs of teken van de belangstelling van de geliefde in stand kon blijven, het geloof dat de partner, hoewel voor het weekend in Milaan of Wenen, niet bezig was een cappuccino of Sachertorte te nuttigen met een liefdesrivaal, het geloof dat een stilte gewoon een stilte was en niet een aanwijzing dat de liefde ter ziele was.

Agora ele sabe que as ideias românticas são uma receita de desastre. Sua aptidão para o casamento baseia-se em critérios bem diferentes. Ele está apto para o casamento porque — para começar a lista — desistiu da perfeição.

Never have they publicly fielded the one question that truly preoccupies them: "what is it like to have been married awhile?

Compatibility is an achievement of love, it shouldn't be the precondition of love.

Rabih feels ready for marriage because he has despaired of being fully understood.

bir iliÅŸkinin baÅŸar?s?n? s?rf çiftin beraber ne kadar mutlu olduÄŸuna bakarak deÄŸil, her bir partnerin bir iliÅŸkide olmama fikrini ne kadar dert ettiÄŸini de göz önünde bulundurarak deÄŸerlendirmek gerekir.

Lovers may kill their own love story for no other reason than that they are unable to tolerate the uncertainty, the sheer risk, that their experiment in happiness has delivered

Marriage: a deeply peculiar and ultimately unkind thing to inflict on anyone one claims to care for.

Vai entender que o amor só dura quando não somos fiéis às suas sedutoras ambições iniciais e que, para ter um relacionamento duradouro, precisará abrir mão dos sentimentos que desde o início o levaram a amar. Precisará aprender que o amor é mais habilidade do que entusiasmo.

A person cannot be at once a libertine and a married Romantic, however compelling both paradigms might be.

Repression, a degree of restraint, and a little dedication to self-editing belong to love just as surely as a capacity for explicit confession.

The libertine position denies any inherent or logical link between loving someone and needing to be unfailingly sexually loyal to them.

Love stories begin not when we fear someone may be unwilling to see us again but when they decide they would have no objection to seeing us all the time; not when they have every opportunity to run away but when they have exchanged solemn vows promising to hold us, and be held captive by us, for life.

Marriage, to Rabih, feels like the high point of a daring path to total intimacy; proposing has all the passionate allure of shutting one's eyes and jumping off a steep cliff, wishing and trusting that the other will be there to catch one.

she knows, better than most, that there is no one more likely to destroy us than the person we marry.

In the wake of the affair, Rabih adopts a different view of the purpose of marriage. As a younger man he thought of it as a consecration of a special set of feelings: tenderness, desire, enthusiasm, longing. However, he now understands that it is also, and just as importantly, an institution, one which is meant to stand fast from year to year without reference to every passing change in the emotions of its participants.

He asks her to marry him because it feels like an extremely dangerous thing to do: if the marriage were to fail, it would ruin both their lives.

Being married may be associated with caution, conservatism and timidity, but getting married is an altogether different, more reckless and therefore more appealingly Romantic proposition.

The success of any relationship should be determined not just by how happy a couple are to be together, but by how worried each partner would be about not being in a relationship at all.

Marriage: a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don't know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully omitted to investigate. EVER AFTER

The point of marriage is to be usefully unpleasant – at least at crucial times. Together we embrace a set of limitations on one kind of freedom, the freedom to run away, so as to protect and strengthen another kind, the shared ability to mature and create something of lasting value, the pains of which are aligned to our better selves.

We have allowed our love stories to end too early. We seem to know too much about how love starts, and recklessly little about how it might continue.