Quotes About Interdependence

Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.

Some codependents become financially dependent

Earnie Larsen, another codependency specialist and a pioneer in that field, defines codependency as "those self-defeating, learned behaviors or character defects that result in a diminished capacity to initiate or to participate in loving relationships

6. Strive for undependence. Begin examining the ways we are dependent, emotionally and financially, on the people around us.

We aren't the people who "make things happen." Codependents are the people who consistently, and with a great deal of effort and energy, try to force things to happen.

We need to know how far we'll go, and how far we'll allow others to go with us. Once we understand this, we can go anywhere. —Beyond Codependency

When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as an escape.

The choice to love is a choice to connect—to find ourselves in the other.

Rarely, if ever, are any of us healed in isolation. Healing is an act of communion.

Life without communion in love with others would be less fulfilling no matter the extend of one's self-love.

America is one big maill with a country attached to it.

I'm like mistletoe," she said, "I need a branch to grow on. Without the branch, I'm nothing.

Quand on parvient à s'aimer vraiment, on attire à soi les bonnes personnes, et le bon niveau d'échange et de complicité se crée. C'est l'association de deux êtres indépendants, qui peuvent d'autant plus s'aimer qu'ils n'ont pas besoin l'un de l'autre pour le quotidien.

Man is not a solitary animal, and so long as social Life survives, self-realization cannot be the supreme principle of ethics.

Two people between whom there is love succeed or fail together, but when two people hate each other the success of either is the failure of the other. If

Again: love is able to break down the hard shell of the ego, since it is a form of biological coöperation in which the emotions of each are necessary to the fulfillment of the other's instinctive purposes.

When two things have frequently existed in close temporal contiguity, either comes in time to cause the other.

In marriage if one partner stays small and quiet in one area of the universe of two, the other may (or must) expand to fill the void.

On the contrary, all the more, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are necessary. 1 Corinthians 12:22

A person cannot be whole in a relationship where he or she feels powerless to make healthy choices.

It resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated, often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing anyone who comes between them.

In this business you break a leg and 150 other people are out of work while production is shut down. It's not like you were an accountant and could still work with your leg in a cast.

Peer attachments are not the problem themselves. It's when they compete with adult attachments that the problems emerge. It's just like when siblings get attached to each other. If they start revolving around each other, then the parents can't do anything with them because it's a competing attachment.

Sick animals can lead to sick people.