Quotes About Understanding

It is necessary, first of all, to find a correct logical starting point, one which can lead us to a natural and sound interpretation of the empirical facts.

It is, as it were, the fundamental principle of cognition that the universal can be perceived only in the particular, while the particular can be thought only in reference to the universal.

To blame others is an act of cowardice. We blame in an attempt to hide our shame. This is not the way of the warrior. The warrior understands that to blame is not simply an abdication of responsibility but a relinquishing of power. You cannot change what you do not take responsibility for.

Solamente cuando entendemos que somos terminales es cuando comenzamos a tratar el tiempo con el respeto que merece.

Cuando Jesús preguntó a los hombres "¿Qué quieren que haga por ustedes?", no fue porque Jesús no lo supiera, sino porque necesitaba que ellos declararan lo que querían que Él hiciera por ellos.

happen if people actually began discovering the actual message of Jesus Christ—that love is unconditional?

Tienes que creer en nuestra amistad".

Wisdom understands that it is less important to win a fight or a point than it is to win the person. Wisdom knows that you should never fight against people; you should fight for them.

És fàcil, per al qui es troba lliure de penes, donar consell i fer avertiments als qui pateixen.

Én meg szavakkal szeretném elmondani azt, amit szavakkal nehéz.

One day Mrs. Goodkind said, 'Pickles, you are not a bad cat. You are not a good cat. You are good and bad. And bad and good. You are a mixed-up cat. What you need is a good home. Then you will be good.'

Trust your reader. Not everything needs to be explained. If you really know something, and breathe life into it, they'll know it too.

Occasionally I looked at Bea to see if she was running over those events like I was, the sound effects living their own life behind her eyes, but she gave nothing away.

But when we reduce the conversation to simply passing judgment, we are left with no conversation at all.

The body often contains emotional truths that words can too easily gloss over.

We see what we want to see, what we can tolerate seeing, and our partner does the same. Neutralizing each other's complexity affords us a kind of manageable otherness. We narrow down our partner, ignoring or rejecting essential parts when they threaten the established order of our coupledom. We also reduce ourselves, jettisoning large chunks of our personalities in the name of love.

Neutralizing each other's complexity affords us a kind of manageable otherness.

My husband deals with pain; I deal with pleasure. They are intimately acquainted.

In this setup, the pressure is always on the non-talker to change, rather than on the talker to be more versatile. This situation minimizes the importance of nonverbal communication: doing nice things for each other, making attentive gestures, or sharing projects in a spirit of collaboration.

What for Partner A may have been agonizing betrayal was transformative for Partner B. Understanding why the infidelity happened and what it signified is critical, both for couples who choose to end their relationship and for those who want to stay together, rebuild, and revitalize theirs.

Intimacy is "into-me-see." I am going to talk to you, my beloved, and I am going to share with you my most prized possessions, which are no longer my dowry and the fruit of my womb but my hopes, my aspirations, my fears, my longings, my feelings—in other words, my inner life. And you, my beloved, will give me eye contact. No scrolling while I bare my soul. I need to feel your empathy and validation. My significance depends on it.

predictability is a mirage. Our need for constancy limits how much we are willing to know the person who's next to us. We are invested in having him or her conform to an image that is often a creation of our own imagination, based on our own set of needs.

Understanding infidelity does not mean justifying it.

Couples therapist Michele Scheinkman emphasizes how important it is to hold a dual perspective that encompasses the differentiated experiences of the couple, something they are unable to do for themselves at this time.