Quotes About Understanding

For us, when our sexual lifestyle is essential to our sense of identity, anybody who doesn't know about our kink doesn't really know us.

A technique for good listening is to listen to what your partner has to say without interrupting and let them know you heard them by telling them what you think they just said.

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.

It's difficult to get attached to preferences like lesbian or straight when you don't know the gender of the person you are flirting with.

When you look at the people around you and dismiss them—or, worse yet, assume you know all there is to know about them—because of their skin color, gender, orientation, way of speaking, mode of dress, religion, or country of origin, you'll never get to hear any of the new and fascinating things those people might have to say.

The real test of love is when someone sees our weaknesses, our stupidities, and our smallnesses, and still loves us.

Good communication is based on identifying our feelings, expressing them, and getting validation that our partner hears and understands what we are saying, whether or not they agree. Emotions are not opinions, they are facts—truths about what people are experiencing.

Knowing, loving, and respecting yourself is an absolute prerequisite to knowing, loving, and respecting someone else.

Clean love is love without expectations.

Most of us resent it when another person tells us how we feel—whether or not they are correct, it is a violation of our boundaries when another person presumes to tell us what our inner truth is. Try asking a respectful question. "How are you feeling right now? I'm wondering if you're sad.

We can't ask our lovers to hold still while we sling accusations at them, using them as a target for our frustrations; that would be asking them to consent to being abused, and they would be right to resist. But we can ask them to listen to how we feel, because putting aside their own agendas for a few minutes and listening to our feelings is a doable task.

The real test of love is when a person—including you—can know your weaknesses, your stupidities and your smallnesses, and still love you.

When you respect your limits, other will learn to respect them too.

We all have some screws loose, common sense and intelligence can diminish that

People are pretty forgiving when it comes to other people's families. The only family that ever horrifies you is your own.

We live in an era with no historical precedents. History is no longer useful as a tool in helping us understand current changes.

I've learned how to look at things and not judge them, but respect them and use it in a way that people understand that I respect them, show them love and respect their reality.

I am so sorry that I hurt you. I know I'll make many more mistakes as time goes on, but I'll try not to make that one again.

So, you are now talking to birds?" Hanlon glanced back from looking up at the tree the crow sat in and said, "Not all birds, just crows, oh, and hawks and eagles, sometimes ospreys, but never vultures." She laughed at his attempt at humor, "Why don't you talk to vultures?" "Well, Sassy, because vultures aren't very good conversationalists. Doug Hiser -Montana Mist coming soon 2010

Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you'd have preferred to talk.

If you start to smell some of the shit, you start smelling all of the shit

Freedom is knowing who you are, and once you know that the rest can straighten out itself if you really know who you are.

I know a lot of things about you, Garth...And I'm rooting for you anyways.

2,000 years ago one man got nailed to a tree for saying how great it would be if everyone was nice to each other for a change.