Quotes About Understanding

All that children can properly require of their parents is that they tolerate their own muddled spectrum - that they neither insist on the lie of perfect happiness nor lapse into the slipshod brutality of giving up.

You can't fit in with people by pretending to be just like they are; you fit in by engaging in a dialogue about your differences, and by putting aside the assumption that your way of life is in any way preferable to theirs.

Much gets corrected that might better have been left alone.

All I know is what I have words for." The absence of words is the absence of intimacy; these experiences are starved for language.

All people are both the objects and the perpetrators of prejudice. Our understanding of the prejudice directed against us informs our response to others.

Andrew Solomon

When the child does not conform to this image, the parents often need help in adapting their behavior to the reality—they

The cliche about autism is that the syndrome impedes the ability to love, and I began this research interested in how much a parent could contrive to love a child who could not return the affection. Autistic children often seem to inhabit a world on which external cues have limited impact; they may seem to be neither comforted by nor engaged with their parents are not motivated to gratify them.

Problemele lor sunt cu adev?rat grave ?i, chiar dac? nu pricepem de ce, trebuie s? accept?m gravitatea acestei chestiuni.

present tense of mild depression envisages no alleviation because it feels like knowledge.

To look deep into your child's eyes and see in him both yourself and something utterly strange, and then to develop a zealous attachment to every aspect of him, is to achieve parenthood's self-regarding, yet unselfish, abandon.

As we talked, I came to understand that hope is like a happy childhood; it equips its beneficiaries to deal with the traumas that inevitably ensue. It is experienced as primal love. (p.15)

Depression is itself destructive, and it breeds destructive impulses: I am easily disappointed in people who don't get it and sometimes make the mistake of telling off those who don't get it and those who have frustrated me. After any given depression, there's the need for a lot of cleanup. I remember that I love friends I had thought of letting go. I try to rebuild what I have wasted.

I think all love is one-third projection and one-third acceptance and never more than one-third knowledge and insight.

If you want to be wise, then, the most important thing you can learn to do is worship.

Take a look at this." "Those poor little ants," says Jill.

Our books are friends for life.

Everybody has a different idea of love. One girl I know said, I knew he loved me when he didn't come in my mouth.

It makes no since to fight a war that is already won.

but whoever heeds reproof acquires understanding.

If the world were really right, humans would live life backward and do the first part last. They'd be all knowing in the beginning and innocent in the end...

Afterward I always kiss her, my baby, and look into her clear eyes that know everything about me, and want me to be her daddy anyway.

And then I know I'm being a man, not just some kid who's upset and wants it his way.

The two people I like most—outside my family—have secrets that I don't ask about. Momma says it's a flaw. She says I should be more interested; that people like to be asked about themselves. I should find out what made them who they are. I look at Shoogy and Bobby and think it doesn't matter 'cause the past doesn't always make sense of the present.