Quotes About Understanding

It is no small pity, and should cause us no little shame, that, through our own fault, we do not understand ourselves, or know who we are.

In fact, all of your theological concepts may only serve to cool the fire of love in the will.

Let us look at our own shortcomings and leave other people's alone; for those who live carefully ordered lives are apt to be shocked at everything and we might well learn very important lessons from the persons who shock us. Our

the Lord knows everyone as he really is and gives each his work to do -- according to what He sees to be most fitting for his soul, and for His own Self, and for the good of his neighbor.

As I see it, we shall never succeed in knowing ourselves unless we seek to know God: let

there is no reason why we should expect everyone else to travel by our own road, and

Our intellects, no matter how sharp, can no more grasp this than they can comprehend God.

We often hurt the ones we love, dear." Adam exhaled. "It's what I do best, Mrs. Polanski.

People can't listen until they're ready. I sure couldn't. I was, like, deaf to everyone except the thoughts. They were the boss of me.

The lack of one's understanding is set by the reality they are willing to accept.

There's No Redeeming Value in Harshness

I believe there's no such thing as overreacting; it's just that what someone is reacting to may no longer be what's in front of them.

Like so many of the men I treat, Stan was being instrumental. His focus was on the task at hand, not on the subjective feelings of his partner. He was looking after her; he was not attending to her emotional needs.

Objectively" Stan was 100 percent right. At the same time, however, he was 100 percent tin-eared when it came to his wife's subjective experience. Worse, every time Lucy tried to tell him what bothered her, every time she tried to bridge the gap between them, Stan only retreated more staunchly into his precious rightness.

resolution comes only by giving up that dream and taking in that you and your partner are not, in fact, going to see all things the same way.

to move beyond some part of you, you must first get to know it and ultimately befriend it.

Paul, as a child, missed out on synchronicity.

It's about changing the way you see yourself in relation to your partner so that your life is neither a desert nor a battle.

The central question I ask myself during a therapy session is simply this one: Which part of you am I talking to?

In your close relationships, urgency is your enemy, and breath is your friend.

Women are unhappy in their marriages because they want men to be more related than most men know how to be. And men are unhappy in their marriages because their women seem so unhappy with them.

The difference between real acceptance and just backing away from an issue, or away from the whole relationship, is resentment.

Use "and," never "but." "But" cancels out whatever came before it. "And" is roomy enough for all of your many feelings.

the most reliable predictor of long-term marital success was a pattern in which the wives, in nonoffensive, clear ways, communicated their needs, and husbands willingly altered their behaviors to meet them.