Quotes About Understanding

As long as we have books, we are not alone.

You have to have sympathy for and an empathy with a character in order to play them.

People don't tend to work that way. We have our opinion and we filter information into a paradigm that supports it.

Why does it take fear to move you? Why does it take chaos to make us understand exactly what we need to do?

Which is when I understand, in a flash, what I've been doing wrong with her—what I've been doing wrong in how I've been trying to connect with her. I thought if I were nice enough, sweet enough, she'd understand she could count on me. But that's not how you learn you can count on someone. You learn it in the moments when everyone's too tired to be sweet, too tired to try hard. You learn it by what they do for you then.

There is a moment in every relationship when you see the whole thing. The question is when does the moment come? Is it the first time you see the person and instinctively know that things between you are going to work out, or fail? Or is it a moment toward the end, however you get there, when you realize that there is something behind this persons eyes that you were never able to touch, no matter how hard you tried?

The best thing about being a friend, is just being.

My husband is smart enough to notice me trying to control him like I'm his boss or his mother—instead of his lover—no matter how clever my wording.

In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage." —Sir Robert Anderson, Author

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Lástima que en aquella época no se hubieran descubierto los hoyos negros en el espacio, porque entonces le hubiera sido muy fácil comprender que sentía un hoyo negro en medio del pecho, por donde se le colaba un frío infinito.

Sometimes, in secret in her head, she liked to skip that awkward "son and daughter-in-law" phrasing and just call them her children.

It isn't such a bad thing to always know that someone on the other side of the world cares about you.

Since the ask is an "emotional firecracker" with emotions running quite high, it is important to drill down and see how important your tone of voice is when you ask. While the selection of your words when you make your ask is incredibly important, as you will see in the later chapters, my expression is "Your tone is as important as your words.

To listen with presence means there is nothing else in the world going on but the person in front of you and what they have to say. When you ask, you need to listen to the person's every word and be present, and show you are present, and then and only then can you make the right response to their ask.

When you catch yourself saying things and doing things that indicate you expect the other person will know exactly what you mean and will do what you anticipate, take a minute and see if you actually asked for what you wanted. Chances are you never asked.

Before we ask, or when we never get the words out to ask, we have the tendency to make a lot of assumptions.

Do not go into the assumption land of guessing why they said no. It will not serve you, your business, or your charity. Also, no comes in many forms.

you talk 25 percent of the time, and they talk 75 percent.

This is where we "overtalk the ask." You begin explaining more about why there is a need for what you want without listening to their thoughts. If you don't know their thoughts, you guess what they are, and you jump in with long and lengthy explanations, qualifications, or negotiations, hoping you will convince the person to say yes.

To listen well is to figure out what's on someone's mind and demonstrate that you care enough to want to know," states Kate Murphy in You're Not Listening: What You're Missing & Why It Matters.

Listening is about curiosity and patience—about asking the right questions in the right way." You simply cannot begin to even think of asking for anything and expect really great results unless you have practiced the art of active listening.

No me perteneces, tan solo me pertenece lo que sientes por mí.

No estoy celoso, si es eso lo que piensas. No veo por qué tienes que amar a una sola persona, si en tu corazón hay espacio para dos. No me perteneces. Tan solo me pertenece lo que sientes por mí. Pero tú puedes sentir otras cosas... por otras personas. Los sentimientos son libres y no siguen normas de ninguna clase.