Quotes About Understanding

Confrontation reduces the effects of inhibition," reversing the detrimental physiological problems that result from inhibition. When we make a lifestyle of openly confronting painful feelings and we "resolve the trauma, there will be a lowering of the overall stress on the body." Confrontation "forces a rethinking of events. Confronting a trauma helps people understand and, ultimately, assimilate the event.

Change comes when we have sat in the pain long enough and fully enough so that we can feel it, can open our mouths and talk about it, see it for what it is, reorder and understand it, and then walk out of it. This does not mean that we won't feel bad, hurt, angry, or triggered about our past again. It just means that if and when we are triggered, we won't catapult into an unconscious place from which we can only act out, shut down, or dive straight into self-medicating behaviors.

Once you've been backstage at a theater, the theater is never the same for you. Once you've noticed the crack in the vase, the vase is never the same for. Once you've seen a friend do something appalling, the friendship is never the same. That does not mean you won't go to the theater, or keep the vase or the friend. You can choose.

Book-writing is always much easier in other people's lives.

Tell me what you listen to, and I'll tell you who you are.

You can't judge a man solely on his actions. Sometimes actions are nothing more than re actions." - Loring Blackman

Eliza, are you crying?" "No." "Yes, you are. Shit, I'm sorry. I was only trying to cheer you up." "You did. It's just that, well, sometimes happiness hurts.

People have reasons for what they do, Beatrice. And even if those reasons can't be justified, that doesn't make them bad people, just flawed. You have to remember," she said, "someone or something has hurt them too.

Kat and I talked about Jacob in our own private code. "Are you baking cookies yet?" she said. That was standard for : have you fucked? "Oh yeah. We've made a couple dozen by now." "What kind?" In other words, was Jacob any good. "Chocolate-chip," I said. "And he not only likes to bake them, he likes to eat them, too." "Congratulations.

I couldn't feel anything," I finally told him. "I couldn't feel the truth. Does that make sense? Do you know what the truth feels like?" "I know what it sounds like.

It drives me crazy when people know me well enough to remind me what I believe.

All my life I waited for someone who would say things like that to me. And for someone I didn't feel alone in the presence of. Someone who understood. Someone who would make me feel like it wasn't just me against the world.

I could actually see LOVE—not words, not an emotion, not an abstract concept or a subjective state of mind, but a living, breathing thing.

Sometimes I would open my eyes when we were kissing, I would watch him and I could see it. I could actually see LOVE- not an emotion, not an abstract concept or a subjective state of mind, but a living, breathing thing. I'd known for a long time that LOVE had a sound, but after Adam left, I wasn't sure it had a face and body too.

What do you say we mark this day—the day we met—by buying each other a record? Something we think reflects our perceptions of each other.

Eliza, you can't judge a man solely on his actions. Sometimes actions are nothing more than reactions.

Tell me what you listen to and I'll tell you who you are." Paul

I was taught at a tender age that Bullying had nothing to do with me; instead it had everything to do with the heartache of the person doing the bullying.

You don't want to be in a relationship with someone who's scared of you.

To be able to bear provocation is an argument of great reason, and to forgive it of a great mind.

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When you reach my age, you learn that there are some fights you simply cannot win.

And you will know the truth and the truth will make you free.

In marriage, compromise nurtures the relationship.