Quotes About Understanding

If you can understand why he's biting and remove the conditions that make him bite, sometimes that can solve the problem as well. The dog isn't dead. He isn't even your enemy.

Mom," said Peter, "nobody thinks you're a lackwit, if that's what you're worried about." "Lackwit? In what musty drawer of some dead English professor's dust-covered desk did you find that word? I assure you that never in my worst nightmares did I ever suppose that I was a lackwit.

By the time they got home, they were both thoroughly bilingual in cursing. *

We are like you; the thought pressed into his mind. We did not mean to murder, and when we understood, we never came again. We thought we were the only thinking beings in the universe, until we met you, but never did we dream that thought could arise from the lonely animals who cannot dream each other's dreams. How were we to know? We could live with you in peace. Believe us, believe us, believe us.

He understood all the words, he just had no clue what was going on. The Aunts said what they meant. Or at least they meant what they said.

I speak to everyone in the language they understand," said Ender. "That isn't being slick. It's being clear.

Oh," said Wheaton. "Oh, I see. Yes, that does bring mathematics into it.

And there it was. The moment a man answered her right back instead of getting his dander up, why, she flashed a smile fit to charm the warts off a toad.

When you have wisdom that another person knows that he needs, you give it freely. But when the other person doesn't yet know that he needs your wisdom, you keep it to yourself.

Speakers for the dead apparently have an almost pathological reliance on the idea that people behave better when they know more.

He always knew the answer, even when she thought he wasn't paying attention.

Does a daughter judge her father?" whispered Qing-jao. "Of course she does," said Father. "Every day all people judge all other people. The question is whether we judge wisely.

but the truth is that no person ever understands another, from beginning to end of life, there is no truth that can be known, only the story we imagine to be true, the story they tell us is true, the story they really believe to be true about themselves; and all of them lies.

Only fools think that truth disappears when the boundaries of belief are crossed.

In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him. I think it's impossible to really understand somebody, what they want, what they believe, and not love them the way they love themselves. And then, in that very moment when I love them—

He's a pig," said Shen. Ender shrugged. "On the whole, pigs aren't so bad.

Ezekiel wanted to cry and he wanted to scream. Cry because he couldn't believe how painful all of this must have been, how sad and lonely Beth must have been. And scream because he never had a clue about the deep pain in Beth's life.

So? Sometime or other everybody wishes everybody would go away. Sometimes I'll wish you would go away. What I'm telling you now is that even at those times, even if I tell you to go away, you don't have to go away.

When you really know somebody, you can't hate them.' 'Or maybe it's just that you can't really know them until you stop hating them.

For he loved her, as you can only love someone who is an echo of yourself at your time of deepest sorrow.

Nobody knows more than can be learned in a single lifetime

True implies that you have found a connection that exists independent of your apprehension of it, that would exist whether you noticed it or not.

Children couldn't stomach the truth, adults believed. Children had to be protected from the harsh realities of the world.

After twenty-five years of marriage, they could see each other clearly without having to look.