Quotes About Understanding

My brother, he says. My brother is dead. And again he asks me to kill him. One more time before he falls to his knees and sobs. And i get it. I do. Because i have a brother too.

But here's something that I know about friendship: Sometimes the right thing to do is to not point out that your friend hasn't touched her chicken fingers or French fries and not point that maybe she's just overreacting. Instead, you just smile and sit with her and say, I understand when really, you don't understand her at all.

Precision about language can be really, really annoying. It can make you miss the point of what the other person is saying altogether.

I know certain truths about life.

Reading is an exercise in empathy. To read is to enter another world in a way different from any other art form.

The nature of trauma is that you have no recollection of it as a story.

He was a husband. There is a name for what he is now. Widower. He had never fully appreciated, in all the years he took patients' medical histories, how it must feel to check that box.

It's wonderful to be loved but its profound to be understood.

It is a measure of true adulthood that we are able to imagine our parents as the people they may have been before us.

They aren't there for posterity. Nor for reference. I don't believe the young woman who wrote them has anything to teach me. What does she know? She hasn't lived my life.

The psychoanalyst who coined it, Christopher Bollas, writes: "There is in each of us a fundamental split between what we think we know and what we know but may never be able to think.

Wer beruflich mit Musik zu tun hat, müsste dazu erzogen werden, Sinn dafür zu entwickeln, sich auch vielen anderen Wissensbereichen zuzuwenden, die nicht direkt mit Musik zu tun haben. Die technische Beherrschung eines Instruments, die für einen Berufsmusiker wesentlich ist, hat nur dann einen Sinn, wenn sie mit einem allgemeinen Erkenntnisprozess einhergeht, zu dem eine breite Basis von Wissen und Kultur gehören.

I don't think that we have any right to have a sort of generalized criticism, if not hatred, of the people who hated us, because then we only descend to the level of those people who persecuted us for so many years. New

Das kann ich, sagte ich einfältiges Kind.

1. Knowing one's emotions. Self-awareness—recognizing a feeling as it happens—is the keystone of emotional intelligence. As

This harkens back to Freud's famous question, "What does woman want?" As Epstein answers, "She wants a partner who cares what she wants.

The most powerful form of nondefensive listening, of course, is empathy: actually hearing the feelings behind what is being said.

Emotional aptitude is a meta-ability , determining how well we can use whatever other skills we have , including raw inellect .

But amid the din and distraction of work life, poor listening has become epidemic.

the workings of the amygdala and its interplay with the neocortex are at the heart of emotional intelligence.

Empathy builds on self-awareness; the more open we are to our own emotions, the more skilled we will be in reading feelings.

The executive circuits that allow us to think about our own thoughts and to monitor the feelings that flow from them let us apply the same reasoning to other people´s minds when we choose to direct our attention that way

Some time is needed to grasp the psychological and moral dimensions of a situation. The more distracted we are, the less we can cultivate the subtler forms of empathy and compassion.

the root of altruism lies in empathy, the ability to read emotions in others; lacking a sense of another's need or despair, there is no caring.