Quotes About Understanding

Reason must know the heart's reasons and every other reason

The long tentacles of vision and understanding have withdrawn and all that is left to me is the ragged black hole of my loss. Loss and the world around. A noisy puzzle whose solution is another puzzle noisier and more stupid. The circle widens toward nothing. The answer is hiding somewhere, if I could only read.

Creo que usted se ha sentido frustrado toda su vida-contesto Bruner en tono sereno-, tal vez por culpa de un hombre que no sabía demostrar su amor.

You have taught me what love is. Your serene form of worship let me forget two thousand years.

I am never angry at anything that is natural—

We will live together sharing our way of life in order to see if we can live together. I shall grant you all your rights as a husband, a lover and a friend.

Love knows no virtue, no profit; it loves and forgives and suffers everything, because it must.

If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first.

Judging people for whom they love (a same sex partner) rather than by whom they harm, should in itself merit a psychiatric diagnosis.

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.

Many marriages would be saved if we would only listen with the same passion that we feel about wanting to be heard.

Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold of deafness.

When you can't see yourself objectively, you won't see anyone else objectively, either.

Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is to stop trying to be helpful.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

It's a cliché, but also a deep truth (as cliché's tend to be), that you can't love another person very well if you don't love yourself.

Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along.

Through words we come to know the other person--and to be known. This knowing is at the heart of our deepest longings for intimacy and connection with others. How relationships unfold with the most important people in our lives depends on courage and clarity in finding voice.

Today I will let go of the need to judge others. I no longer need others to be wrong just to build my own self-worth. I will loosen my rigid perceptions of people, knowing that they have the right to be who they are. Like me, they are doing the best they can.

He had not healed Bobby because there was nothing wrong with him.

There are times when silence has the loudest voice.

Are you a good listener? Do you ask questions that help the other person become a better communicator? Do people feel comfortable around you, or do you dominate conversations?

Empathy requires us to step outside of our own agendas long enough to develop an understanding of the other person's perspective. It can be rightly stated that no relationship will be whole without ongoing displays of empathy.

Each difference in a relationship represents an opportunity for the participants to grow and stretch.