Quotes About Understanding

Self-Blame and Other-Blame. You find fault in others or yourself instead of solving the problem or identifying the true causes of the problem.

Other-Blame.You blame others and overlook ways you might have contributed to the conflict.

Being a woman alone can be helpful in making you more understanding of the problems women in different situations face. This can help you to learn to be more supportive of other women and can enable you to develop more meaningful relationships with them.

The most loving women are the women who will test you the most.

The way you relate to your woman's chaos reflects the way you react to the chaos of the world. If you are the kind of man who needs everything placed neatly in its nice little box, then you will also try to box your woman's emotions. If you are the kind of man who would rather hire other people to take care of the chaos in your attic, or the chaos of your finances, you would probably also rather leave it to someone else to take care of the chaos of your woman.

Learn to find humor in the unending emotional drama the feminine seems to enjoy so much.

Remember that self-discipline is not self-suppression. Suppression is when you resist and fight against your desires, keeping them as buried and unexpressed as possible. Self-discipline is when your highest desires rule your lesser desires, not through resistance, but through loving action grounded in understanding and compassion.

Never base your plans on what a woman says she wants to do, unless she is in the full flow of love when she says it. And then, expect her to change her mind at any moment when her feelings change.

If you are like most men, however, you probably end up feeling burdened by your woman's mood. You feel your woman is a pain in the ass. You wish your woman would leave you alone and take care of herself. Eventually you feel worn down, or frustrated. You end up simply tolerating your woman's moods, while resentment builds inside of you. You wonder, what's her problem? Why can't she just be happy?

Practice love instead of trying to bring an end to the quality that bothers you. You can't escape the tussle with the feminine. Learn to find humor in the unending emotional drama the feminine seems to enjoy so much. The love that you magnify may realign her behavior, but your effort to fix her and your frustration

if you can bring her depth when she is superficial

However, if you find her behavior or mood is merely distasteful or a hassle, realize that she will always seem this way: The feminine always seems chaotic and complicated from the perspective of the masculine.

Some men feel guilty for not being as "into" the relationship as their woman is. You must understand that this is natural.

Self-discipline is when your highest desires rule your lesser desires, not through resistance, but through loving action grounded in understanding and compassion.

Everything is idiocy if you choose to look at it in the proper perspective.

Isn't it easier to forgive than to hate? Until we learn how to forgive, that sort of thing is going to keep on happening. He pointed at the tall pillars of smoke rising to the north. Hate is a sterile thing, Belgarion.

Women are almost always angry with us for one reason or another. It's one of the things you'll have to get used to as you get older.

As long as people are talking instead of fighting, nobody loses very much blood—unless he happens to bite his tongue.

Actually it's very simple, but simple things are always the hardest to explain.

Raphael watched, and gradually he began to understand them. At first it was not even a theory, but rather a kind of intuition. He found that he could look at any one of them and almost smell the impending crisis. That was the key word—crisis. At first it seemed too dramatic a term to apply to situations resulting from their bumbling mismanagement of their lives or deliberate wrongheaded stupidity, but they themselves reacted as if these situations were in fact crises.

Just because I love her, it doesn't mean that I love you less.

Love can show itself in many strange ways

Don't explain it to me, please," Anheg said. "As long as somebody I know and trust understands, that's all that's really important.

Sorgan tried his very best not to think about how long it must have taken for a stream that small to eat its way down through solid rock to form its current bed. Sorgan knew exactly what the word "hundred" meant, but when numbers wandered off toward "thousand"—or even "million"—and the people who used those terms were talking about years, Sorgan's mind shied back in horror.