Quotes About Understanding

We're always disappointed when we find out someone has human limits, the same as we do. It's stupid for us to feel that way, and we really ought to know better, but that doesn't seem to slow us down.

Ya te lo dije» preventivos —señalé—. Ahora sí que lo he visto todo.

You've got to talk to someone. It doesn't have to be me or here, but you've got to do it. There's no shame in feeling bad about killing someone, not for any reason.

Please don't assume that I do not realize secrets are being kept from me. Tolerance is not the same as ignorance.

Wizardry is awfully intriguing and useful, but it doesn't necessarily teach you very much about other people. It's better at teaching you about yourself.

You'll never value information that comes to you easily.

I'm not saying pain is what defines us as human beings. But it is, in many ways, what unites us. We all recognize other people in pain.

Sometimes it scares me how easy it is to get people to do what you want them to do, if you know something about them.

you have to smile at idiots and children.

You're probably right," she said, nodding. "So I'm not going to kill you for shoving your well-intentioned opinion down my throat in a vulnerable moment. Just this once.

If the beginning of wisdom is in realizing that one knows nothing, then the beginning of understanding is in realizing that all things exist in accord with a single truth: Large things are made of smaller things. Drops of ink are shaped into letters, letters form words, words form sentences, and sentences combine to express thought.

Wait. You don't understand. I just wanted it to stop. Wanted the hurting to stop. I smoothed a bloodied lock of hair from her eyes and felt very tired as I said, The only people who never hurt are dead.

because they didn't care if their adoptive child's skin was a different color from their own. They were just looking for a child to love. And

Meaning creates emotion.

When children say they are bored, it usually means "I want you to spend more time with me." Playing with our kids is one of the great joys of parenting.

The parent should keep their response empathetic yet vague: "I want you to have that, and you can—as soon as you have a plan for how this isn't going to be a problem." Wise parents keep their response fairly open ended in order to keep the child thinking about the situation and how to move forward.

all of our investigative questioning, done when our kids might be telling the truth, may breed a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's been said that if we wrongly accuse our kids twice for the same thing, they'll set out to prove us right. You can almost hear them say with a sigh, "You think I do it anyway, so I might as well do it.

It is often effective to say, "Well, it looks like things are not going well for you right now. When you get yourself to the point of putting your thoughts into words, come and talk to me. I'll be glad to listen." Then break eye contact and move on.

Because parents are biologically programmed to protect their children, their automatic tendency is to try to rescue them or give them some wisdom that will solve the problem. A more effective approach involves listening with empathy and very few words.

When our kids mess up, we are often overcome with anger and want to punish them. The better thing to do, though, is lock in our empathy for them and then let the consequences do the teaching.

For the consequences to have any benefit, we must commiserate with our kids, not yell at them. They have nobody to be angry with but themselves when we show sadness. Because of punishment, Brianne had her mom to blame.

How much better to get wisdom than gold! To get understanding is to be chosen rather than silver. Proverbs 16:16

Children learn early in life that their parents can't get into their brains. We can't make them think what we think or believe what we believe. When we try, we invite their disobedience;

When you listen to your spouse, you are communicating non verbally that they are important to you.