Quotes About Understanding

when people we love make choices, we don't always understand them. But we can go on loving them, just the same. It isn't a matter of comprehension. It's forgiveness.

If you want to understand something, you first need to accept the fact of your own ignorance. And then, you need to talk to people who know more than you do, people who have not just thought about the facts, but lived them.

Could it be as simple as that? Could love be not grand gestures or empty vows, not promises meant to be broken, but instead a paper trail of forgiveness? A line of crumbs made of memories, to lead you back to the person who was waiting?

Believe me, Being gay is not a choice. Noone would choose to make life harder than it has to be.

You can't hate someone until you know what it might be like to love them.

You have to understand what you're missing before you can really feel a loss.

Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards. Søren Kierkegaard

She understood what it was like to stand right in front of people you loved, even though they could not see you.

When you love someone, you don't see parts of him you don't like.

Until I understood why you didn't cry, even though it hurt: there are kinds of pain you couldn't speak out loud.

There is nothing worse than silence, strung like heavy beads on too delicate a conversation.

anyone can understand anything. You just have to know how to present your information.

There are some nights when you just want to know there's someone else besides you in this wide world.

Well, you have to find that rare someone for whom you're not putting on a show. Someone who shines a spotlight in your direction—not because you're who they need you to be, or who they want you to be…just because you're you.

But that's what love is, isn't it? When it hurts you more to see someone suffer than it does to take the pain away?

You give her all your french fries, even when she won't give you back onion rings,' Sophie says. 'And when you say her name it sounds different.' How?' Sophie thinks. 'Like it's covered with blankets.

It turns out that sharing the past with someone is different from reliving it when you're alone. It feels less like a wound, more like a poultice.

Everyone is afraid of saying the wrong thing. It's more important to be there than to be right.

True confession: The reason we don't talk about race is because we do not speak a common language.

Sometimes you hurt the people you love. And sometimes you love the people who hurt you.

I've always been able to see you, I say. It's a rather lovely view.

Love isn't what you expect it to be. You imagine being drunk on happiness, but the truth is, you worry all the time. Is she ill? Hurt? Might she meet someone else? There's a moment when you realize that you've gotten everything you wished for. And right on its heels is the understanding that this means you have so much more to lose.

It is so easy to presume that while your own world has ground to an absolute halt, so has everyone else's.

it it strange, suddenly having a memory come back out of nowhere. you think you're going crazy; you wonder where this recollection has been hiding all your life. you try to push it away, because you think you've hammered out the whole timeline of your life, but then you see that one extra moment, and suddendly you are breaking apart what you though was a solid segment, and seeing it for what it is: just a string of events, shoulder to shoulder, and a gap where there is room for one more.