Quotes About Understanding

he knows you, and he's talking to you, but you're in pain and you cannot understand him.

Leave the lights on. Keep talking. I'll keep walking toward the sound of your voice.

Are you there, sweetheart? Do you know me?

Is there an acceptable result? Do we mean something when we talk?

Let's admit, without apology, what we do to each other.

What can you know about a person? They shift in the light. You can't light up all sides at once. Add a second light and you get a second darkness, it's only fair. He is looking at the wall and I am looking at his looking. Difficult thing, to be scrutinized so long. I find parts that overlap with mine and light them up in clays and creams, yellow music singing pink, the flicker of his mouth a purple rust.

I want what everyone wants.

there's no pure way to say it.

but you say the same thing every time. Let's not talk about it, let's just not talk.

Explaining will get us nowhere.

I show them the funny part, the silly part, the laughing part, the crazy part and then the really deep, deep part where I'm talking from my heart to these people. Because I've been through everything they've been through.

Well, it just figures," Younger told him, like a man explaining his religion.

A woman seldom writes her Mind, but in her Postscript.

When you fall into a man's conversation, the first thing you should consider is, whether he has a greater inclination to hear you, or that you should hear him.

After nineteen years, he still needed explanations from me. If being willing to speak at length into an unresponsive void isn't one of the cornerstones of a rich relationship and enduring love, what is?

It's no big deal for us to be out of each other's company for a couple of days. We've done it before. We're friends and lovers, not Siamese twins.

When I worked as a lecturer, I had a colleague who said "The trouble with students is that they are always at your feet or at your throat." The same could be said of devotees. My colleague's words are a wonderfully concise summary of the problem of projection.

We really are like fish discussing how to get more in touch with the sea.

In order to love people usefully you need to be focused on them and not yourself.

we all need reassurance and encouragement. We're human, and that's how we work

Somewhere out there is someone who wants exactly the kind of person you are, complete with all the flaws and failings you come with.

The better you understand the beliefs, actions, desires, and wants of others, the more likely you are to make the right response, alter your own thinking where necessary and generally be successful.

This has to be a Rule because there can be no choice here. We have to accept that we are the way we are—the result of everything that has happened. It all just is.

The important thing is to recognize that when they want to do something on their own, it's not a rejection of you, it's simply an affirmation of who they are. It's their way of touching base and staying happy and if you don't let them do it, you'll lose the person you love.