Quotes About Understanding

We must waive the lecture and embrace listening. What are they actually saying? What is confusing to them? What do they think? Where is the rub? Let's hear them, then engage them... Kids want to be mentored, not ruled.

Learning to discern what is eternal and what is simply a product of our own context is actually harder work than accepting any interpretation on its face.

God never turns away a seeker and neither should we.

Marriage is no place to be inordinately sensitive. We cannot prickle over every little thing. Learn to hold the biting remark, the wounded reaction, the irritated retort. Married tongues should be shredded with the amount of ugly words bitten back. Everything cannot be a big deal, because when the big deals actually happen, we're too worn-out to handle them.

We are only qualified to administer mercy, not judgment, because we will pull up many a beautiful stalk of wheat, imagining him a weed.

When Jesus said to "love your neighbor as yourself," I don't think He meant judgmentally; but that is exactly how we treat our own souls, so it bleeds out to others.

Some useful statements to pocket to create safe spaces for discussion: Tell me more about that. Tell me how your thoughts progressed in this. I appreciate your experience with this. I'm listening. I hear what you are saying. I would love to learn from you. I care about how you feel and your perspective here. I understand that. I identify with

Jesus was tender toward brokenness but impatient toward egotism.

It's about creating a place to belong before people are expected to behave or even believe.

We can't deliver folks from their pits, but we can sure get in there with them until God does.

An intelligent person can rationalize anything, a wise person doesn't try.

You can hear something over and over and over and over and over and still not really hear it. It does not click. No lo comprendo. Until you're ready to hear it. And then it is defeaning.

An epiphany is a visceral understanding of something you already know.

When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that your reactions are not the truth about the person or situation, they are just your feelings about them. All you have to do is change your perception and you are free.

How do you forgive the stupid bastard?

Byron Katie says, "We don't attach to people or things, we attach to uninvestigated concepts that we believe to be true in the moment.

everyone is living in their own self-created illusion, and that you have no idea what they're acting out or where they're coming from, so just because you think something is totally not okay, in their illusion, it could be fine and your way could be totally not okay.

Know what's going on with their money

As the alien, everything about this life is new to you. You look around—what do you see? What is this person who you've inhabited so obviously awesome at? What do they have the most fun doing? What connections do they have? What resources and opportunities are available to them? As

based on someone else's beliefs. Until they wake up. Which is what this book will hopefully help you do. Here's how it works: We as humans have a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. Most of us are only aware of our conscious minds, however, because that's where we process all our information. It's where we figure things out, judge, obsess, analyze

no matter how much we "know," there are always more sides to the story

A wise man once said nothing.

I don't understand," Oraeyn whispered hoarsely. "It is not for us to understand," Ina replied, her face clearing as she listened to Kaitryn. "It is for us to travel to the very edge of the light we are given." "And then?" Oraeyn asked. A radiant smile beamed across Kaitryn's face. "And then we jump with swords drawn, a battlecry on our lips, and we beat back the darkness.

For one of the odd things about death, Trudy has discovered, is that in its wake one must go about business as usual; it seems heartless and wrong, but now that the rituals of mourning have been attended to, the sole task left to Trudy is to try and comprehend the enormity of thes sudden change.