Quotes About Self-reliance

It's only in fairy tales that princesses can afford to wait for the handsome prince to save them. In real life, they have to bust out of their own coffins and do the saving themselves.

I finally realized there are no handsome princes - that it was all up to me... that it had always been up to me.

Only me. It had always only been me. I'd just needed to believe in her. In me.

I wanted Ambiades to understand that I considered myself a hierarchy of one.

As soon as the guards where gone, I lay down on my stone bench and dumped the king and his threats out of my head without ceremony. They were too unpleasant to worry over anyway.

I realized I was waiting for his permission to leave

You've got to stop thinking everyone's problems can be solved by falling in love.

sé la heroína de tu vida, no la víctima. —NORA EPHRON

My aunts warned me of this many times—be wary of the sway of others, they told me. Find your own path and stay upon it. Don't allow yourself to be pulled in another direction, even if you must walk alone. "Do the most good," is their favorite saying. The most good. I like that, because it allows for, well, some of the not-so-good too. Sometimes a bit of that is necessary.

We stop worrying about them, and they pick up the slack and finally start worrying about themselves. What a grand plan! We each mind our own business. Earlier, I described a person caught in

Codependents appear to be depended upon, but they are dependent.

People and things don't stop our pain or heal us. In recovery, we learn that this is our job, and we can do it by using our resources: ourselves, our Higher Power, our support systems, and our recovery program.

If we abdicate responsibility for our choices, we may become angry, sometimes full of rage at others for running our lives, for telling us what to do. We need to take responsibility. We need to trust ourselves.

To believe in people, to believe in each person's inherent ability to think, feel, solve problems, and take care of themselves is a great gift we can give and receive from others.

Maybe we don't need to go deeper into our codependency. We can, instead, march forward into our destinies.

Detachment is based on the premises that each person is responsible for himself, that we can't solve problems that aren't ours to solve, and that worrying doesn't help.

Some codependents become financially dependent

We can discuss our feelings and problems without expecting people to rescue us too. We can settle for being listened to. That's probably all we ever wanted anyway.

Detachment is based on the premises that everyone is responsible for themselves, that we can't solve problems that aren't ours to solve, and that worrying doesn't help.

3. Stop looking for happiness in other people. Our source of happiness and well-being is not inside others; it's inside us. Learn to center ourselves in ourselves.

4. We can learn to depend on ourselves.

6. Strive for undependence. Begin examining the ways we are dependent, emotionally and financially, on the people around us.

I have no place in my life for someone who is sure he can do everything.

If you would rise, do so alone.