Quotes About Psychology

It seems to me to have value because the curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I change.

Below the level of the problem situation about which the individual is complaining—behind the trouble with studies, or wife, or employer, or with his own uncontrollable or bizarre behavior, or with his frightening feelings, lies one central search. It seems to me that at bottom each person is asking, "Who am I, really? How can I get in touch with this real self, underlying all my surface behavior? How can I become myself?

The good life, from the point of view of my experience, is the process of movement in a direction which the human organism selects when it is inwardly free to move in any direction.

In fact, Rousseau's focus in Confessions on his inner psychology and the idea of the true self that he articulates in the Discourses together represent what we noted in chapter 1 is now known as expressive individualism, the notion that I am most truly myself when I am able to express outwardly what that voice of nature says to me inwardly. Doing that, to use modern parlance, is what makes me authentic.

Brain scans, [McGonigal] said, have shown that there are regions of the brain that activate when we think about other people, and other regions that activate when we think about ourselves. In cases where people don't feel much connection to their future selves, the areas of the brain that light up when they are asked to think about themselves in the future are—guess what?—the same ones as when they think about other people."1

The reason behind the need to dominate others derives from a terror of being dominated by them.

Existential psychology has shown the depth of the human need to matter, make a difference, and feel a significant purpose in this world. We all need to feel that we do something that matters within the frame of reference that defines our experiential world. The question is, what is this frame of reference?

People will buy a product because of how it will make them feel, not because they "need" it. Create scarcity.

He wrote up the cases of his own patients who believed themselves to be someone other than themselves. There were Virgin Marys, Christs and Gods, Marilyn Monroes and Elvis Presleys. Movie stars and even characters from literature took over the lives of Ambrose's patients. Jane Eyre sometimes screamed in an imaginary red room at Mandala.

Success is the result of psychologically preparing for it, prior to achieving it!

If you can understand human behavior, it can't hurt you nearly as much.

Yes, he was depressed, but he was coping the way people in the growth mindset tend to cope—with determination.

Another way people with the fixed mindset try to repair their self-esteem after a failure is by assigning blame or making excuses.

As a New York Times article points out, failure has been transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure). This is especially true in the fixed mindset.

For thirty years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value. How does this happen? How can a simple belief have the power to transform your psychology and, as a result, your life?

So in the fixed mindset, both positive and negative labels can mess with your mind. When you're given a positive label, you're afraid of losing it, and when you're hit with a negative label, you're afraid of deserving it.

Since this was a kind of IQ test, you might say that praising ability lowered the students' IQs. And that praising their effort raised them.

failure has been transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure). This is especially true in the fixed mindset.

Praising children's intelligence harms their motivation and it harms their performance

Como indica un artículo de The New York Times,32el fracaso ha pasado de ser una acción (yo fracaso) a ser una identidad (yo soy un fracasado). Esto es especialmente cierto en la mentalidad fija.

Les pones etiquetas a tus hijos? Este es el artista, y ese es el científico. Recuerda la próxima vez que no los estás ayudando, aunque los estés elogiando. Recuerda nuestro estudio en el que elogiar la habilidad de los niños hizo que sus cocientes intelectuales disminuyeran. Encuentra una forma de mentalidad de crecimiento para halagarlos.

Como esse estudo era uma espécie de teste de QI, é possível dizer que elogiar a capacidade reduziu o QI dos alunos, e elogiar o esforço elevou-o.

As a New York Times article points out, failure has been transformed from an action (I failed) to an identity (I am a failure).

Evidenced in a capacity for denial so that you do not let yourself know what is really going on. You may be hurting yourself and others, but you will not acknowledge it. You may also be hurt, but you will repress that knowledge as well. Or, you believe what others say even when their perspective is directly counter to your own inner knowing.