Quotes About Ego

Man is jealous because of his amour propre woman is jealous because of her lack of it.

It is funny the two things most men are proudest of is the thing that any man can do and doing does in the same way, that is being drunk and being the father of their son.

My little Matthew, Isabelle at once snapped back at him, when two people agree, it means one of them is redundant

It is always the humble man who talks too much; the proud man watches himself too closely.

The men who really believe in themselves are all in lunatic asylums.

The vain man does not think he is vain.

To get the most out of the relationship you are in, it won't be helpful to listen to the ego's stories about it. They will only bring separation and conflict. Essence would tell a different story about your loved one. It would probably be something like: "This person is in my life for me to love to the best of my ability. Let's see what happens if I do that." As Essence, we are here to serve others and serve life. The ego, on the other hand, is all about serving itself.

Essence simply enjoys and commits attention and love to whatever is. In fact, committing attention to anything that is present results in enjoyment. The ego enjoys so little because it commits attention to what isn't present and to what it doesn't have, and suffers over that, instead of committing attention to whatever is. It loves its fantasies, dreams, and desires more than it loves reality.

There are two possible experiences of every moment: the moment as experienced by Essence and the moment experienced by the ego. The ego's experience of the moment is struggle, conflict, effort, dissatisfaction, restlessness, and unease. Essence's experience of it is freedom, happiness, peace, acceptance, contentment, and joy. Either experience is possible in any moment, depending on whether we are identified with the ego or with Essence.

Love isn't something we can understand because it's not able to be grasped by the mind. Love is not in the mind's or the ego's domain. It's a quality of Essence—of who we really are—and that is too mysterious for the mind to be able to contemplate. And the mind doesn't want to. Yet love is where fulfillment lies and why relationships are so important to us.

So the catch is that you are programmed to choose the ego over Essence until a time comes in your evolution for the realization of the truth to surface.

One of the qualities of our true nature besides being aware is that it is allowing and accepting. "Noticing" captures how consciousness touches the experiences of life but doesn't push them away, cling to them, judge them, or even evaluate them as good or bad, which are all features of the egoic self.

The antidote to the stress and suffering caused by the egoic mind is letting everything be as it is.

You choose love over whatever the egoic mind is telling you about life, the past, the future, yourself, someone else, or what you should do. You recognize these messages as coming from the ego, and you choose not to listen to them.

The ego just makes the mistake of looking for happiness in the wrong places. In fact, the egoic mind is the only thing in the way of happiness. It is the problem, not the solution. When the mind is quiet, all there is, is love,

The ego lies in wait for the opportunity to list someone's supposed faults (according to the ego's conditioning). So it's never long before the judgments and reservations begin to flow.

It flows through you and moves you to speak and act, whenever your speech and actions are not being coopted by the ego. You only feel separate. But that is the illusion. How you feel does not reflect the truth about reality. Reality is bounteous, trustworthy, and intelligent beyond imagination.

Much of what keeps the ego's lies in place now is the fear of being different from the crowd, of stepping beyond convention and going against how most people think. Once there is less of a stigma around questioning your programming, because more people are not drinking the ego's Kool-Aid, people will awaken to the truth—to reality—much more easily.

This egoic sense of lack creates a feeling of having a problem that needs to be fixed, which the ego is glad to offer advice about. The thoughts in your mind send you here and there, trying to fix a problem that only exists in your mind. The fact that other people's minds might agree that you have a problem doesn't make an imaginary problem real, but their agreement does make imaginary problems seem real.

Thoughts are conditioning, so when you believe your thoughts, you become the conditioned self and lose touch with your real self. As a result of the distance from thoughts developed by meditation, the real self comes back into the picture. The real you is what is aware of thoughts and of everything else. The ego can't be aware of thoughts because the ego is, in essence, itself a thought. The ego belongs to the conditioned self and has no awareness of its own.

The way to living without judgments is simply to see the truth about them: They don't serve us or others. The ego leads us to believe they are important, relevant, and useful, and they just aren't. Once we see this, we are free to not indulge in them. They may arise in the mind out of habit, but eventually, if we don't give them our attention, this habit of thinking and talking about others will subside.

As soon as you see you are ego identified, you are outside of it and you have some choice—to either reidentify with the ego or not.

Beliefs can't change reality, even though they change one's experience of it. To be helpful, beliefs have to reflect reality accurately. The ego tries to change reality with its faulty beliefs—its shoulds and coulds—while the hero doesn't bother with beliefs that aren't true. He knows that only the ones that stand up to experience and match reality work and are useful.

Language such as "good" and "bad" and "I like" and "I don't like" divides the world into what you want and don't want. Then when life shows up in a way you don't like, you suffer. By wanting life to look a certain way, you cause your own suffering. The hero has seen how such dualities and desires create suffering and how suffering wouldn't exist without them.