Quotes About Identity

Bisexuals are like agnostics, trying to have it both ways.

A woman's relationship with her father will have a profound impact on all her future relationships with men. The fatherless daughter lacks a template. Fatherless daughters are more likely to be promiscuous—so GREAT, thanks Mum, I'm going to be a slut!!!!!!!!!! —Entry in Ellen O'Farrell's diary, written a week before her fifteenth birthday

Try not to saddle yourself with too distinct a personality too early in life. It might not suit you later on. Say

I couldn't act like a normal person again when she now knows me as a crazy person, because that would imply I have a choice. That I can choose to be crazy or normal. And if I have a choice, then that would imply that I'm not really crazy at all, and I should just stop it and get on with my life.

You never changed your appearance for men, you changed it for other women,

He owned an apricot polo shirt, and ironed it himself. Yes, he was probably gay.

When you're in a relationship you get stuck playing out your different parts.

You don't want to be you anymore. Of course you don't. Who would?

The middle-aged woman she would have become, so sure of herself and her place in the world, bossy and loving, condescending and impatient with her dear old mum,

Jane had tried that with Mothers Group and failed. She just couldn't relate to those bright, chatty women and their bubbly conversations about husbands who weren't "stepping up" and renovations that weren't finished before the baby was born and that hilarious time they were so busy and tired they left the house without putting on any makeup! (Jane, who was wearing no makeup at the time, and never wore makeup, had kept her face blank and benign, while she inwardly shouted: What the fuck?)

Your child was a little stranger, constantly changing, disappearing and reintroducing himself to you

No one warned you that having children reduced you right down to some smaller, rudimentary, primitive version of yourself, where your talents

She loved the sound of wind chimes and the smells of essential oils. These were her people; this was her thing. ("Hippies with money," Julia would say.)

When disability or madness is present, it is conceived of as a deficit, something in need of correction, medically/psychiatrically or by the correction industry, but not as a nuanced identity from which to understand how to live differently, including reevaluating responses to harm and difference.

We all do things we desperately wish we could undo. Those regrets just become part of who we are, along with everything else. To spend time trying to change that, well, it's like chasing clouds.

We all do things we desperately wish we could undo. Those regrets just become part of who we are, along with everything else. To spend time trying to change that, well, it's like chasing clouds.

Power changes everything till it is difficult to say who are the heroes and who the villains.

How I'd love to get away from here and be someone else for a while in a place where no one knows or expects certain things from me.

I'm an orphan now, thought Charlotte. No matter how old you are, when your parents are gone, you are alone - an orphan.

Nakedness makes us democratic, adornment makes us individuals.

It is in most cases more difficult to make intelligent people believe that you are what you are not, than really to become what you would appear to be.

In every man there is a little of all men.

You need to have a kind of home port where you put down anchor when the hurricane comes; you must stay connected to your roots. That helps you to have humility and an understanding of your true self.

My brothers are retro-refugees in the new exile of the asylum-seekers' hostel.