Quotes About Identity

There are times when I worry that I've already lost myself. That is, that my self is so inseparable from being with you that if we were to separate, I would no longer be. I save this thought for when I feel the darkest discontent. I never meant to depend so much on someone else.

You don't know me. You know one me, just like I know one you. And you can't know every me, and I can't know every you.

Be careful what you're doing, because no one is ever who you want them to be.

I've always known I was gay, but it wasn't confirmed until I was in kindergarten. It was my teacher who said so. It was right there on my kindergarten report card: PAUL IS DEFINITELY GAY AND HAS VERY GOOD SENSE OF SELF.

i wish i were someone else, even though i know i'll never, ever be able to get away from what i've done and what's been done to me.

I could point out that it isn't always easy knowing who you are and what you want, because then you have no excuse for not trying to get it.

If you want to live within the definition of your own truth, you have to choose to go through the initially painful and ultimately comforting process of finding it.

With all due respect, if you're forty-three, then I'm a fetus.

I am proud that I defy your categories. I am proud that I don't fit easily into any box. I am proud of all the things I am and all the things i can be. Question yourself every time you think you only see one thing in me.

And maybe it is only by finding yourself that you can feel the true intensity of becoming close to another person.

In my experience, desire is desire, love is love. I have never fallen in love with a gender. I have fallen for individuals.

I no longer think she's just being nice. She's being kind. Which is much more a sign of character than mere niceness. Kindness connects to who you are, while niceness connects to how you want to be seen.

Pink is female - but why? Are girls any more pink than boys? Are boys any more blue than girls? It's something that has been sold to us, mostly so other things can be sold to us.

Let me give you some free advice. She's a runner for sure- she'll run away every time without saying a word. But here's the thing- you are not a runner. And deep down, I don't think Norah wants to run, either. She's just feels like she has to. Partly because she's a tiresome spoiled-brat smartass with no fashion sense. And partly because she's a fucking human being.

The world loves stupid labels. I wish we got to choose our own.

I know from experience that beneath every peripheral girl is a central truth. She's hiding hers away, but at the same time she wants me to see it.

In school, the year was the marker. Fifth grade. Senior year of high school. Sophomore year of college. Then after, the jobs were the marker. That office. This desk. But now that school is over and I've been working at the same place in the same office at the same desk for longer than I can truly believe, I realize: You have become the marker. This is your era. And it's only if it goes on and on that will have to look for other ways to identify the time.

Why is it so much easier to talk to a stranger? why do we feel we need to disconnect in order to connect? If I wrote Dear Sofia or Dear Boomer or Dear Lily's Great-Aunt at the top of this postcard, wouldn't that change the words that followed? Of course it would. But the question is: When I wrote Dear Lily, was that just a version of Dear Myself? I know it was more than that. But it was also less than that, too

How can you spend hours every day trying in small ways to figure out who you are, then have a near-stranger give you a sentence of yourself that says it better than you ever could?

People like to say being gay isn't like skin color, isn't anything physical. They tell us we always have the option of hiding. But if that's true, why do they always find us?

This is my life, I think. I am an accumulation of objects.

You know, I'd get a tattoo with your name on it. Only, I want you to have the freedom to change your name if you want to.

I'm ready to lose myself, but I'm not ready to lose you. I'm ready to find myself, But I'm not ready for you to know what I find.

he hopes that maybe it'll make people a little less scared of two boys kissing than they were before, and a little more welcoming to the idea that all people are, in fact, born equal, no matter who they kiss or screw, no matter what dreams they have or love they give.