Quotes About Self-compassion

I am losing my great, dissolving, disintegrating pity for others, in which I saw deflected the compassion I wanted for myself. I no longer give compassion, which means I no longer need to receive it.

Patients weep when they discover they are their own victimizers and not the victim of others. They weep when they discover they are responsible for their own suffering.

Sometimes people let the same problem make them miserable for years when they could just say, So what. My mother didn't love me. So what. My husband won't ball me. So what. I'm a success but I'm still alone. So what. I don't know how I made it through all the years before I learned how to do that trick. It took a long time for me to learn it, but once you do, you never forget.

Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up.

You get older and you learn there is one sentence just four worlds long and if you can say it to yourself it offers more comfort than almost any other. It goes like this… Ready " "Ready." "At least I tried.

You get older and you learn there is one sentence, just four words long, and if you can say it to yourself it offers more comfort than almost any other. It goes like this... Ready? At least I tried.

One must never be either content with, or impatient with, oneself.

how we value and treat ourselves, not just on how we value or treat others.

You must allow yourself a few small failures and develop a capacity to forgive yourself when you make a mistake.

You've had a lousy life up till now, no denying that. But if you let it ruin the rest of your life, who's the fool? Who will you be spiting? You, that's who.

She expected people to accept her for who she was. But she never really accepted herself.

And when you can't stand yourself, you don't want people around who are constantly saying how much they love you, because you know you don't deserve it.

You didn't fail. You just opted out. There's a difference.

she had been surprised by a certain sponginess around her belly, her thighs, her hips, her upper arms. She didn't weigh much more — well, not too much — but it was as though what she did weigh had given up paying attention. Her flesh was not bothering to hold itself together anymore

You simply collapsed, sir. In layman's terms, your body revoked its permission for you to continue heaping abuse upon it.

I am not sure, I answered. I hope it won't break my heart if I don't do well. I had been concentrating on developing that kind of attitude since I'd emerged from my depression in November. I'd realized how much I had taken the achievement ethic to heart - I had been so hard on my mistakes and middling performances. A sincere effort was all I owed myself.

I treat my poor heart like a sick child, and gratify its every fancy. Do not mention this again: there are people who would censure me for it.

Of all the journeys to undertake, the one of self-compassion is one of utmost importance for long-term well-being.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Be a little harder on yourself. Learn from your experiences. Don't dwell on things. Get on with your life.

When we forgive, the slave we free is ourselves.

Forgiving yourself means that you give up on your hope that the past will be different.

At any given time, we are all doing the best we can. The problem is, our best often isn't good enough for us. We then punish ourselves, denying ourselves peace because we feel we don't deserve it. A sad situation remedied when we finally accept, we are doing the best we can.

Regrets are the most useless form of guilt. They always arrive too late to do any good.

Meanwhile, your body was learning not to respond as if threatened by each new experience. And in the absence of a response, the body did not experience distressing, long-term arousal. You found that your body was a friend to trust. At the same time, you were learning that you had a special body, a sensitive nervous system. But you could handle things by learning when to push yourself a little, when to take your time, when to back off entirely, when to rest and try later.