Quotes About Self-compassion

One of the biggest things I learned was that it's OK to be nervous and admit that you're having a hard time.

It is not virtuous in any way to put yourself down, or to punish yourself, because you do not feel you have lived up to your best behavior at any given time.

Waiting to be 'better' is the wrong approach. It's learning to live with it.

Cuando nos aceptamos tal como somos, y en el lugar donde estamos, disponemos de mayor energía para entregársela a la vida. No perdemos tiempo intentando cambiar las cosas.

Non si ha il diritto di autocompatirsi finché i propri problemi sono ancora accettabili... E quando invece non lo sono più, il solo modo di sopportare l'insopportabile è di riderci sopra.

With some gratitude, I realized that my awareness was now stronger than my neurosis. This did not mean that things would never go to pieces, only that I did not have to fall apart when they did. In fact, my own ability to go to pieces was protecting me in this situation. I did not have to let my identity as an efficient and together person imprison me.

The Buddha] is not dividing himself into worthy and unworthy pieces; he is one being, indivisible, immune from the tendency to double back and beat up on himself. He has seen the worst in himself and not been taken down.

Simply speaking, they showed him that he could be kind. In his years of spiritual searching he had perfected all kinds of esoteric talents. He could take his mind into spheres of nothingness, go for days and weeks without eating, and rend his flesh with the best of them, but he was still operating with barely disguised contempt, not benevolence, toward himself and his world. When the enlightened Buddha told his admirer that he was awake, it was this basic kindness he was pointing to.

The Pain of Becoming For the flower, it is fully open at each step of its blossoming. We do ourselves a great disservice by judging where we are in comparison to some final destination. This is one of the pains of aspiring to become something: the stage of development we are in is always seen against the imagined landscape of what we are striving for. So where we are—though closer all the time—is never quite enough.

Perhaps one of the hardest remedies to accept for our pain of becoming is that wherever we are in our path—no matter how flawed or incomplete—is a blossoming unto itself.

We all make mistakes. It's part of growing. The trick isn't to be perfect. It's to find a place of solace in the mind so that it doesn't cane you for trusting the wrong person or following after the wrong dream. All of us fall victim to harmful guile at some point.

The most important point is to accept yourself and stand on your two feet.

We must be content to grow slowly. Most of us will still barely be at the beginning of our recovery by the time we die. But that is better than killing ourselves pretending to be healthy.

I decided with this new awareness to dedicate my day to moving at my own natural, calm pace, and not pressuring myself to get going, get moving, or hurry up at all, something quite different from what I otherwise did.

We don't choose our flaws, unfortunately.

The best way to deal with your past is not to avoid thinking about it or trying to forget it, but to accept it happened, forgive yourself and move on.

Despise your weakness, not yourself.

Don't judge me by my past. I don't live there anymore.

Accept who you are. Unless you're a serial killer.

Our flaws are what makes us human. If we can accept them as part of who we are, they really don't even have to be an issue.

It's not your fault, you've always had sensitive skin and there's nothing wrong with being sensitive.

He who hates himself is not humble.

Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It's about accepting all of yourself.

Remember, goals are stars to steer by, not sticks with which to beat ourselves.