Quotes About Self-compassion

We don't have to punish ourselves by feeling guilty to prove to God or anyone else how much we care.7 We need to forgive ourselves. Take the Fourth and Fifth Steps (see the chapter on working a Twelve Step program); talk to a clergy person; talk to God; make amends; and then be done with it.

Overreacting may impair our mental functioning. Decisiveness is hindered by worrying about what other people think, telling ourselves we have to be perfect, and telling ourselves to hurry. We falsely believe we can't make the "wrong" choice, we'll never have another chance, and the whole world waits and rises on this particular decision. We don't have to do these things to ourselves.

Today I will learn to reject shame. Shame is an overwhelming sense that who I am isn't good enough. I realize that I am good enough, and that my imperfections are part of being human. I let go of shame.

Inventory Focus: Instead of berating yourself for not knowing something you don't or can't see, are you willing to be gentle with yourself while you wait for clarity?

Little storms of despair, hopelessness, or self-hatred may squall up out of nowhere in our lives. We can hunker down and protect ourselves even when the storm is inside us.

I wanted to be a victim. I continued to act like I did not have choices and that it was always everyone else's fault in the family for how I felt and reacted." More

Self-acceptance is that gentle place we get to when we make peace with who we are.

We make ourselves feel safe and loved. We do all those wonderful things for ourselves that we wish someone else would have done for us.

Shut off the internal bashing.

The one person who will never leave us, whom we will never lose, is ourself. Learning to love our female selves is where our search for love must begin.

The wounded heart learns self-love by first overcoming low self-esteem.

Simply learning how we have acquired feelings of worthlessness rarely enables us to change things; it is usually one stage of the process.

It is silly, isn't it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself.

Nadie debería creerse perfecto, ni preocuparse demasiado por el hecho de no serlo.

Self-care is a requirement.

I promise you, no one judges me more harshly than I do myself; I caused a brilliant wreckage. Some say I fell from grace; they're being kind. I didn't fall – I dove.

In the photograph by my bed my other is perpetually smiling on me. I guess I have forgiven us both, although sometimes in the night my dreams will take me back to the sadness, and I have to wake up and forgive us again.

Enough, child. You've grieved enough. I understand he has abandoned you, but must you abandon yourself?

I understand he has abandoned you, but must you abandon yourself?

You are accepting painful feelings as a part of your life, perhaps even rationalizing them as being good for you. It's time to stop.

he felt about his inability to open up to anyone emotionally, but I urged him to go easy on himself. He hadn't had anyone to teach him those things when he was young, and they're pretty tough to pick up on your own. "It would be like expecting yourself to play a piano concerto when you didn't even know where middle-C was!

You can't go around holding the worst thing you ever did in your hand, staring at it. You gotta cook supper, put gas in the car. You gotta plant more zinnias.

You've had a tough crack at life, I'll give you that. But you don't got to let the bad thrown at you become the ugly you think you got to be.

if I wait to be perfect before I love myself I will always be unsatisfied and ungrateful if I wait until all the flaws, chips, and cracks disappear I will be the cup that stands on the shelf and is never used