Quotes About Change

But I assure him that he's not breaking down; he's breaking open.

You get through your pain by accepting it and figuring out what to do with it. You can't change what you're denying or minimizing. And, of course, often what seem like trivial worries are manifestations of deeper ones.

once they realize that they can (and must) construct their own lives, they're free to generate change.

Não podemos ter mudança sem perda, motivo pelo qual é tão frequente as pessoas dizerem que querem mudar, mas mesmo assim continuarem exatamente iguais.

losses tend to be multilayered. There's the actual loss (in my case, of Boyfriend), and the underlying loss (what it represents).

thought about how regret can go one of two ways: it can either shackle you to the past or serve as an engine for change.

Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way. A lot

Doing something prompts you to do something else, replacing a vicious cycle with a virtuous one. Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way.

a mudança e a perda andam juntas. Não podemos ter mudanças sem perda, motivo pelo qual é tão frequente as pessoas dizerem que querem mudar, mas mesmo assim continuarem exatamente iguais.

Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way. A lot can happen in the space of a step.

Everything you feel—anxiety, elation, anguish—blows in and out again.

They may not be able to imagine their depression lifting anytime soon, but they don't need to. Doing something prompts you to do something else, replacing a vicious cycle with a virtuous one.

A lot can happen in the space of a step.

transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way.

When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. But if we spend the present trying to fix the past or control the future, we remain stuck in place, in perpetual regret.

Sometimes we are the cause of our difficulties. And if we can step out of our own way, something astonishing happens.

We grow in connection with others. Everyone needs to hear that other person's voice saying, I believe in you. I can see possibilities that you might not see quite yet. I imagine that something different can happen, in some form or another. In therapy we say, Let's edit your story.

Brez izgube ni spremembe, in prav zato se pogosto dogaja, da sicer ljudje izrazijo željo po spremembi, a kljub temu ostanejo pri starem.

It may seem counterintuitive, but therapy works best when people start getting better—when they feel less depressed or anxious, or the crisis has passed. Now they're less reactive, more present, more able to engage in the work. Unfortunately, sometimes people leave just as their symptoms lift, not realizing (or perhaps knowing all too well) that the work is just beginning and that staying will require them to work even harder.

impossible to grow without first becoming vulnerable.

Every relationship is a dance. The Dude does his dance steps (approach/retreat), and Charlotte does hers (approach/get hurt)—that's how they dance. But once Charlotte changes her steps, one of two things will happen—the Dude will be forced to change his steps so that he doesn't trip and fall down, or he'll simply walk off the dance floor and find somebody else's feet to stomp on.

needed to remember that he would never be that man again. As he was now, he did not

We read to learn about the world. We write to change the world.

There will be sway.