Quotes About Change

Your problem is not that you lose control of yourself, it's that you take control of your partner. In order to change, you don't need to gain control over yourself, you need to let go of control of her.

There are two main principles to keep in mind when deciding how much potential an abuser has to become a kind, respectful partner in the long run: 1. He cannot change unless he deals deeply with his entitled and superior attitudes. No superficial changes that he may make offer any real hope for the future. 2. It makes no different how nice he is being to you, since almost all abusers have nice periods. What matters is how respectful and non coercive he chooses to become.

The salient point about remorse, however, is that it matters little whether it is genuine or not. Clients who get very sorry after acts of abuse change at about the same rate as the ones who don't. The most regretful are sometimes the most self-centered, lamenting above all the injury they've done to their own self-image. They feel ashamed of having behaved like cruel dictators and want to revert quickly to the role of benign dictators, as if that somehow makes them much better people.

They are reluctant to do the serious work of change, feeling that it would be easier to throw a new blanket over the moldy mattress and carry on with life as usual.

Abusive and controlling men tend to have an endless collection of strategies to avoid having to look at their behavior and change it. They are highly attached to an unequal, privileged position in their relationships with women, and as a result are simply not willing to operate respectfully, since that would mean operating as equals.

We grew up together but we won't grow old together.

Each generation stamps itself onto the next one. The impression is indelible. Like the flowers in my mother's gardens that come and go with the changing seasons, life re-creates itself. And the best of life must be nurtured if it is to thrive.

Esto es lo que me pasó a mí. Pensé que tenía normas. Yo creía en mis absolutos. Lo hice para la mayoría de las situaciones. Entonces no lo hice. Conforme pasó el tiempo, mi mundo se volvió gris y mis absolutos se oscurecieron. El bien y el mal se disolvieron en lo que sabía que tenía que hacer.

Books only change the world if the world is capable of digesting them.

For those who do not think, it is best at least to rearrange their prejudices once in a while.

It is well for people who think, to change their minds occasionally in order to keep them clean.

It is well for people who think, to change their minds ocasionally in order to keep them clean.

The mad mob does not ask how it could be better, only that it be different. And when it then becomes worse, it must change again. Thus they get bees for flies, and at last hornets for bees.

Os meus olhos deviam ter a mesma expressão nos últimos anos, mas nunca notei. Bem que me olhava no espelho para ver que cara a pessoa tem quando sofre muito, mas era sempre o meu rosto. Cada vez mais achava que devia ter mudado muito, não se podia ser a mesma depois de tanta coisa, de tanta dor. Contudo, era eu.

A vida não tece apenas uma teia de perdas, mas nos proporciona uma sucessão de ganhos.

Nisso reside nossa possível tragédia: o desperdício de uma vida com seus talentos truncados se não conseguirmos ver ou não tivermos audácia para mudar para melhor — em qualquer momento, e em qualquer idade.

Mas é necessário cortar com o que ele eventualmente tem de sufocante: pois pode ser também jaula, voragem, fundo de poço. Se ficarmos demais presos, teremos de nos puxar pelos próprios cabelos para outro espaço onde mesmo com susto e incertezas a gente possa respirar e decidir o que fazer agora.

In spite of the string of magazine covers announcing the contrary, we all know that ten simple things will not save the earth. There are, rather, three thousand impossible things that all of us must do, and changing our light bulbs, while necessary, is the barest beginning. We are being called upon to act against a prevailing culture, to undermine our own entrenched tendency to accumulate and to consume, and to refuse to define our individuality by our presumed ability to do whatever we want.

We are being called upon to act against a prevailing culture, to undermine our own entrenched tendency to accumulate and to consume, and to refuse to define our individuality by our presumed ability to do whatever we want.

Surely there is a continuum from a pure, undefiled wilderness to a trammeled concrete industrial area. But there is no place, we now know, as the relentlessly global impacts of climate change become increasingly understood, that humans have left untouched; and there is no place that the wild does not, in some small way, proclaim itself.

We may not be able to change our circumstances, but we can change the way we think about them.

As we keep in step with the Spirit, our thinking changes, and the craving to self-indulge begins to die. And our hearts are humbled, which enables us to see God for who he is and everything we have as a gift. Gratitude to God - not just words of thanks but a heart-deep belief - makes self-indulgence meaningless.

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