Quotes About Change

Somethings different,Carlos continued.Tonight you came in with no scowling or growling.Why the change? Robby shrugged one shoulder.I'm trying to convince you i'm no' crazy.If I kept doing the same thing when it wasna working, would that no' be crazy? Good point.

It had replayed in her mind, over and over, growing in importance till it seemed her whole life could be slotted into two categories. Life before the kiss, and life after the kiss. Her life before the kiss had moved step by step ever closer to the predestined event. Meeting Dougal. And kissing him.

I asked if I could touch you and kiss you, and ye agreed. Have ye changed yer mind?" "No." Her heart thundered in her ears. "But ye're moving so fast." "Sweetheart, I doona count time in millennia like you. I'd like to get started. In this century.

So, what's the first step to changing norms? It's breaking the code of silence around the problem that always sustains the status quo.

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. —MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.

Instead, success relies on the capacity to systematically create rapid, profound, and sustainable changes in a handful of key behaviors.

Change Tactic: Bad habits are almost always a social disease—if those around us model and encourage them, we'll almost always fall prey.

You can't simply highlight an inspiring paragraph in a book and walk away changed.

As much as others may need to change, or we may want them to change, the only person we can continually inspire, prod, and shape—with any degree of success—is the person in the mirror. There

Change Tactic: Changing persistent and resistant habits always involves learning new skills.

Change Tactic: Bad habits are almost always a social disease—if those around us model and encourage them, we'll almost always fall prey. Turn "accomplices" into "friends" and you can be two-thirds more likely to succeed.

Change Tactic: Changing deeply entrenched habits invariably requires help, information, and real support from others. Get a coach, and you'll make change far more likely.

Change Tactic: Directly link short-term rewards and punishments to the new habits you're trying to form, and you're far more likely to stay on track.

Change Tactic: Small changes in your environment can have a surprising effect on your choices. For example, just add a few visual cues that help you focus on your goals, and your behavior will change rapidly.

We're asking you to undo years of practice, maybe even eons of genetic shaping that prod you to take flight or pick a fight (when under attack), and recode the stimulus. "Ah, that's a sign that the other person feels unsafe." And then what? Do something to make it safe.

It's our dogmatic conviction that "if we could just fix those losers, all would go better" that keeps us from taking action that could lead to dialogue and progress. Which is why it's no surprise that those who are best at dialogue tend to turn this logic around. They believe the best way to work on "us" is to start with "me.

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind. —WILLIAM JAMES What

Changing deeply entrenched habits invariably requires help, information, and real support from others. Get a coach, and you'll make change far more likely.

The lion's share of the problems that really bother us don't call for additional technology, theory, philosophy, or data (we're up to our necks in that); instead, the problems call for the ability to change what people do. And when it comes to this particular skill, demand far exceeds supply. Given

when a challenge in life is met by a response that is equal to it, you have success. But when the challenge moves to a higher level, the old, once successful response no longer works—it fails; thus, nothing fails like success.

The game had to be played the same way every day or the pieces would fall to the floor, the board would collapse, and the illusion that you were shaping your own life, that you were in control, would break.

A consensus slowly gathered among us. We had given up something important, we believed: the fire, the vigor, that came with a lack of ease. We had lost some of the difficulty of our lives, and we wanted it back.

If I could, I would work my way backward, paring away the years. I would reel my life arouond the wheel of this longing like so much loose wire.

Was that what it meant to be alive—moving from a brightly lit corridor into a darkened room at every step?