Quotes About Emotional intelligence

When people remembered incidents in which they were the perpetrator, they often described the harmful act as minor and done for good reasons. When they remembered incidents in which they were the victims, they were more likely to describe the action as significant, with long-lasting effects, and motivated by some combination of irrationality and sadism. Our own acts that upset others are innocent or forced; the acts that others do to upset us are crazy or cruel.

Being a good person likely is more related to distanced feelings of compassion and kindness, along with intelligence, self-control, and a sense of justice. Being a bad person has more to do with a lack of regard for others and an inability to control one's appetites.

The idea I'll explore is that the act of feeling what you think others are feeling—whatever one chooses to call this—is different from being compassionate, from being kind, and most of all, from being good. From a moral standpoint, we're better off without it.

Less empathy, more kindness.

Making children suffer temporarily for their own good is made possible by love, intelligence, and compassion, but yet again, it can be impeded by empathy.

Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear. (James 1:19)

The smart kid teases the dumb kid. The athlete makes fun of the kid with two left feet. Something is so wrong inside us that we can't even handle blessing properly.

Consider having as a friend, co-worker, or lover a person who in terms of emotional control and disguise was like a three-month-old infant, yet in all other respects—intelligence, skills, and so on—was fully able as any adult. It is a painful prospect.

the compassionate mind is the mind that transforms.

É um dos grandes erros da pessoa culta: ter como adquirido que, por possuir uma mente sofisticada, possui também emoções sofisticadas".

It doesn't matter what you've got in your pants if there is nothing in your brain to connect it to.

Damn, a mirror can be a lethal weapon, and self-knowledge a poisoned pill. I had been a self-centered and egotistical jock with all the trappings of stunted male adolescence. Back then, I had yet to develop the empathy for others that marks the passage into manhood.

skill in dealing with emotions (yours and someone else's) and in communicating effectively on an interpersonal level.

Today I see myself as a spiritual being with three distinct human facets: I am what I think; I am what I do; I am what I feel. And, to the degree that I control my thinking, I control my actions. To the degree that I control both my thinking and my actions, I control my feelings. Then, the circle is completed when my feelings affect my thinking which again affects my actions.

Furthermore, if this is true for me, then it is true for you and for every one of us. All along, we did the best we could under the circumstances at that particular time.

in order to be comfortable with other people, you have to be comfortable with yourself.

Don't counterattack. You may strike back at the person with BPD to try to win the argument or vent your feelings. But when you do this, you'll fall into the projection and projective identification trap that the person with BPD has unconsciously set for you.

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Don't get drawn into the other person's extreme reactions; trust your instincts and form your own judgments.

Not bad. Human. You've really got to stop seeing things as all bad or all good. And you've got to learn that just because someone tells you something that you don't want to hear, doesn't mean that person's out to get you.

The sensitive readers, they have a certain look. You can al. most smell it on them, that they need books to feel okay.

We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.

If you hate something, don't you do it too?

75 percent of long-term job success depends on people skills, while only 25 percent on technical knowledge.