Quotes About Adaptation

It's a Secret of Adulthood: I can't make people change, but when I change, others may change; and when others change, I may change.

The happiest, healthiest, most productive people aren't those from a particular Tendency, but rather they're the people who have figured out how to harness the strengths of their Tendency, counteract the weaknesses, and build the lives that work for them.

I don't want to reject my life. I want to change my life without changing my life.

It's easier to keep up than to catch up...

But it doesn't matter what we think a person (or ourselves) should be able to do - what matter is only what works for each individual.

When we consider our own Tendency, we can create circumstances and messages that will work best for us, and when we consider other people's Tendencies, we can create circumstances and messages that will work best for them.

Habits speed time, because when every day is the same, experience shortens and blurs; by contrast, time slows down when habits are interrupted, when the brain must process new information.

it doesn't matter what we think a person (or ourselves) "should be able to" do—what matters is only what works for each individual. To help people change their habits or behavior, we should help get them what they need to succeed, whether that's more clarity, more information, more outer accountability, or more choices.

I should tailor my habits to the fundamental aspects of my nature that aren't going to change. It was no use saying "I'll write more every day if I team up with another writer, and we race to see who can finish writing a book faster," because I don't like competition.

The Four Tendencies can help us . . . to give other people what they need-not what we would need. And then we can work together more harmoniously.

We can live and work more effectively with others when we identify their Tendencies - as coworkers and bosses, teachers and coaches, husbands and wives, parents and children, health-care providers and patients.

What we assume will be temporary often becomes permanent; what we assume is permanent often proves temporary.

But it doesn't matter what we think a person (or ourselves) "should be able to" do—what matters is only what works for each individual. To help people change their habits or behavior, we should help get them what they need to succeed, whether that's more clarity, more information, more outer accountability, or more choices.

Don't grieve limitations

Arranging to Fail Loophole:

When possible, the brain makes a behavior into a habit, which saves effort and therefore gives us more capacity to deal with complex, novel, or urgent matters.

We assimilate a little this way, and a little that way. Life is only mutation.

It had occurred to me that comfort was only a disguise for discomfort; reference points, a disguise for what will always change.

In his journal, Emerson wrote: "Everything teaches transition, transference, metamorphosis….We dive & reappear in new places.

Wenn die Welt einmal untergehen sollte, ziehe ich nach Wien, denn dort passiert alles fünfzig Jahre später.

As you get older, the heart shed its leaves like a tree. You cannot hold out against certain winds. Each day tears away a few more leaves; and then there are the storms that break off several branches at one go. And while nature's greenery grows back again in the spring, that of the heart never grows back.

Self-confidence depends on environment: one does not speak in the same tone in the drawing room than in the kitchen.

Izgledalo joj je da poneka mesta na zemlji sama po sebi stvaraju sre?u, kao što neka biljka uspeva na jednom zemljištu, a na drugom ne.

Self-possession depends on its environment.