Quotes About Adaptation

Acceptance, she thinks, is the harshest lesson life teaches and the one most important to learn.

Well, the way I look at it, I'm still working with hair; only now, it's in the food.

The best way to beat the enemy is probably to go to their homeland. As our former leader Deng Xiaoping put it, we'll cross the river by touching the stones."49

Wanting to change your handwriting may be an indication that you are ready, or wanting, to change a whole lot of other things in your life as well. You alone can decide what you wish to change and why.

Rosemary Thornton

The school discipline program isn't working for the kids who aren't doing well and isn't needed by the kids who are.

He knows just what buttons to push. We should reword this one so it's more accurate: when he's having difficulty being flexible, dealing adaptively with frustration, and solving problems, he does things that are very maladaptive and that adults experience as being extremely unpleasant.

The problem is not that caregivers sometimes use Plan A. The problem is that caregivers use Plan A a lot and stick with it even when it's not working.

Strategy #3: Asking about the situational variability of the unsolved problem; in other words, why is the child meeting the expectation sometimes and not other times?

Adults sometimes become impatient in the midst of Plan B and head for Plan A or Plan C.

In schools, as in homes, there's a tendency to work on the hot-button problem that precipitated a challenging episode on a particular day. But because unsolved problems wax and wane, the hot-button unsolved problem that was the focal point on one day is often replaced by a different hot-button unsolved problem the next.

There are a lot of different people to get on the same page. And there's a big dinosaur in the building: the existing school discipline program.

Other parents feel that lagging skills are too negative. Those lagging skills don't diminish your child's many positive attributes, but they do explain why your child has been responding to problems and frustrations so maladaptively. And, compared to many of the other things that have been said about your child, perhaps accurate is more apt.

Difficulty seeing the "grays"; concrete, literal, black-and-white thinking Difficulty deviating from rules or routine Difficulty handling unpredictability, ambiguity, uncertainty, or novelty Difficulty shifting from original idea or solution Difficulty adapting to changes in plan or new rules Difficulty taking into account situational factors that would suggest the need to adjust a plan

Moving from one environment (such as playing outside) to a completely different environment (such as doing homework inside) requires a shift from one mind-set (When I'm playing outside, it's okay to run around and make noise and socialize) to another (When I'm doing homework, I need to sit at my desk and concentrate on my schoolwork). If a kid has difficulty with this skill, there's a good chance he'll still be thinking and

But let there be no doubt: he'd prefer to be handling those challenges adaptively because doing well is preferable. And because—and this is, without question, the most important theme of this entire book—kids do well if they can.

And that's what it's about, isn't it? Love? Love's about making it last, making it stick, making it count - even when it hurts, when times are hard, when people change, when life changes them. If you love someone, then you have to want to love them, whoever they are.

Push yourself out of your comfort zone and see what you are really capable of.

The fact is that the future will not be a continuation of the past. It will be a series of discontinuities. And only by accepting these discontinuities and doing something about them will we stand any chance of success and survival in the twenty-first century.

People don't necessarily want or need to be done unto as you would have them do unto you. They want to be done unto as they want to be done unto

Emotional control typically relies on various subtle tricks, such as changing how one thinks about the problem at hand, or distracting oneself. Hence,

Making yourself switch to your left hand is thus an exercise in self-control. You can resolve to use your left hand instead of your habitual right hand for brushing your teeth, using a computer mouse, opening doors, or lifting a cup to your lips.

When you were out, you were out, and the team, your friends, whatever you were dealing with moved on—as you did.

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