Quotes About Autonomy

A girlfriend went on a couple of dates with a guy who criticized the color of her nail polish. She said, "The suggestion department is closed for the evening, but fax your idea tomorrow and we'll file it right over there in the suggestion box." (Then she pointed to the kitchen trash.)

If you always make him feel he has plenty of space to do his own thing, he'll always feel that lust. You'll be like a lover not like his mother. He'll perceive you as a privilege rather than an obligation, and he'll come your way.

If you smother him, he'll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom.

correcting the situation or by not allowing the person to have access to you.

Whether it's your taste in clothing, your needs in a relationship, or what you do for a living—don't let anyone else be at the controls. Define yourself.

Your power gets lost the minute you start asking, "Where do I stand?" Because what you've just told him is that the terms of the relationship are now his to dictate.

It is important to be able to do stuff alone and not have her give you a hard time about it.

As a person, you feel you are complete with him or without him. This is the most important thing you can convey: independence rather than dependence. This is what gives him the perception you can hold your own.

She has a strength that is ever so subtle. She doesn't give up her life, and she won't chase a man. She won't let a man think he has a 100 percent "hold" on her. And she'll stand up for herself when he steps over the line. She knows what she wants

It's smothering to him when you watch him too closely. Don't give him the feeling he's under a microscope. He'll feel controlled and will instantly want to get away.

Don't plan all of your weekends together so he has to ask permission to go fishing. Let him catch a couple of fish. Otherwise, he'll start to break dates. Why? Because he's acting like a rebellious teenager who's been given a curfew by mama. He'll do it deliberately so you don't get used to dictating how his time is spent.

The bitch is her own guide.

It also gives him something he absolutely needs: the freedom to breathe.

obligation he's stuck with. This is also why giving him space is so important. It makes you look proud rather than desperate. It enables you to remain a challenge indefinitely.

Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently.

Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way.

Whenever you are too worried about someone else's approval, that person loses respect for you.

He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him.

The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.

If someone else doesn't like your confidence, that's their problem. Why? You always come before they do, that's why.

Agree with everything, explain nothing, then do what is best for you.

It's amazing how everyone has an opinion on how you should live your life.

I do not like the idea of bartering the use of my reproductive system for a man's support...

I see you are still determined to not listen to me about not venturing abroad after lights-out.' She sat down across from him at the worktable. 'I never listen to you when I know enough to make up my own mind.