Quotes About Autonomy

When you're doing what's right for you, it's okay to say it once, simply, and then refuse to discuss anything further.

Boundaries are to take care of ourselves, not to control others. If we set a boundary not to be around practicing alcoholics, it isn't to force Harvey to stop drinking. Harvey can choose to drink or not drink. Our boundary gives us a guideline to make our choice—whether we want to be around Harvey.

An unexamined life isn't worth living, or so they say. The problem with living up to other people's expectations too much is that it doesn't leave us time to have a life. Take a moment. Ask yourself this question, and don't be afraid to look deeply: Are you allowing someone else's expectations to control your life? Examine the expectations you're living up to; then live by your own inner guide.

Each person's feelings are his or her own. Nobody makes

You can spoil your fun, your day, your life—that's your business—but I won't let you spoil my fun, my day, or my life.

I do not deserve and will not tolerate abuse or constant mistreatment.

4. We can learn to depend on ourselves.

6. Strive for undependence. Begin examining the ways we are dependent, emotionally and financially, on the people around us.

Make any decisions you need to make to take care of yourself, but don't make them to control other people. Start taking care of yourself

We need to know how far we'll go, and how far we'll allow others to go with us. Once we understand this, we can go anywhere. —Beyond Codependency

When we attempt to control people and things that we have no business controlling, we are controlled. We forfeit our power to think, feel, and act in accordance with our best interests. We frequently lose control of ourselves. Often

There are some things we can't do, no matter how long or hard we try. These things include changing other people, solving their problems, and controlling their behavior. Sometimes, we feel powerless over ourselves—what we feel or believe, or the effects of a particular situation or person on us.

Furthermore, we are not responsible for anyone else's feelings, although we are responsible for choosing to be considerate of people's feelings.

Today, I will separate myself from family members. I am a separate human being, even though I belong to a unit called a family. I have a right to my own issues and growth; my family members have a right to their issues and a right to choose where and when they will deal with these issues. I can learn to detach in love from my family members and their issues. I am willing to work through all necessary feelings in order to accomplish this.

We don't have to be controlled by what other people say; we don't have to try to control them with our words and special effects. We don't have to be manipulated, guilted, coerced, or forced into anything. We can open our mouths and take care of ourselves! Learn to say: "I love you, but I love me, too. This is what I need to do to take care of me.

Each person's feelings are his or her own. Nobody makes anyone feel; no one is ultimately responsible for our feelings except us, no matter how much we insist they are. People might help us feel, but they don't make us feel. People also cannot change the way we feel. Only we can do that.

If we absolutely can't feel good about something we're doing, then we shouldn't do it - no matter how charitable it seems. We also shouldn't do things for others that they ought to and are capable or doing for themselves. Other people aren't helpless. Neither are we.

We can evaluate our behavior. We can make decisions about what we need and want. We can figure out what our problems are and what we need to do to solve them.

When you're doing what's right for you, it's okay to it once, simply, and then refuse to discuss anything further.

The only thing that isn't free is you. You do as you're told. You sit in your seat until they say 'Stand'. You stay put til they say 'Go'. Maybe that's the way you like it. It's easy. It's all there. You don't have to think about. You don't even have to feel it.

If you would rise, do so alone.

My parents can take themselves off on a scenic tour of hell before they tell me who my friends will be," Gan said pleasantly.

She would never truly be her own woman if she allowed fear and old memories to dictate where she would or would not go.

I understand that you think your child isn't old enough to know his own mind, but I promise you, he is. He may well be wrong, but he does know his own mind, and he's got a perfect right to think that way. And you need to stop letting him prove he's smarter than you are by rising to the bait he throws out to make you angry!