Quotes About Autonomy

I knew from the moment I heard you, the moment I saw the gun and realized that this lovely, petit woman was the executioner, that you would never die waiting for me to save you - that you would save yourself.

You can't save everybody. In fact, there are days when I think you can't save anyone. Each person has to save himself first, then you can move in and help. I have found this philosophy does not work during a gun battle, or a knife fight either. Outside of that it works just fine.

I hadn't been "possessed", after all. Not by an angel or a demon. Maybe there were aspects of both inside me, but I was the one who chose which to let out.

Roby thought he should get "dibs" on Natalia because he claimed her first, that's what he was arguing. I'm not convinced it works that way. Natalia has dibs on herself, that's what I think.

I'd rather die on my own terms than live on theirs. I'd rather die loving Alex than live without him.

I'd rather die my way than live yours.

Focus on yourself -- do what you want, when you want, without having to consider anyone else's agenda.

Mom and Dad were great, but being asked where I was going every time I left the house - or where I'd been every time I returned - got old quickly.

declare and ordain as free and quit of every obligation of captivity, subjection, and slavery, my captured

It is not your job in life to instruct everyone as to what his or her proper opinion or conduct should be.

You are a free soul and therefore you must choose carefully what you think.

Often we go through minutes, hours, and even days operating totally from our subconscious. We think we are in control, but the subconscious has established its own agenda and is really running the show. We are ASLEEP! Walking Zombies!

Autonomy and a sense of independence are the core capacities that have failed to develop fully in those who exhibit this survival style.

Attuned parents support increasing age-appropriate independence and autonomy. Highly anxious parents undermine their children's developing need for independence because of their own unresolved fears. They prevent their age-appropriate movement toward autonomy in order to "protect" their children.

As the child grows older, obtaining love from the parents becomes linked to pleasing them, so that love is associated with duty, burden, and bondage. For many with this survival style, obtaining love becomes inextricably tied with the necessity to please, often at the expense of their own integrity and autonomy.

Individuals with the Autonomy Survival Style have had to face the dilemma of choosing between themselves or their parents. To submit to their parents leaves them feeling invaded, controlled, and crushed. On the other hand, their loving feelings and the need to maintain the attachment relationship keep them from overtly challenging parents.

Adaptive Survival Style Shame-Based Identification Connection Feel shame at existing, feeling, and connecting Attunement Feel shame when experiencing and communicating their needs Trust Feel shame when feeling dependent, vulnerable, or weak Autonomy Feel shame at their impulses toward self-determination, autonomy, and independence Love/Sexuality Feel shame about sharing their heart and relational intimacy

So long as a man rides his hobbyhorse peaceably and quietly along the King's highway, and neither compels you or me to get up behind him - pray, Sir, what have either you or I to do with it?

so long as a man rides his Hobby-Horse peaceably and quietly along the King's highway, and neither compels you or me to get up behind him,--pray, Sir, what have either you or I to do with it?

I don't like [to] make a woman ... an abstract concept of the fashion. I don't like [to] say, "You must wear that." ... I am not a dictator.

Herinnering is als een hond die gaat liggen waar hij wil.

Don't ever smile if you don't want to," she said, and Hannah, half-blinded by the spotlight of Lydia's whole attention, nodded. "Remember that.

Her womb was not an apartment for rent.

Don't ever smile if you don't want to,' she said.