Quotes About Autonomy

You must learn to cultivate your own garden and keep your nose out of everybody else's. If they want to grow rutabagas in it, if they want to use a different kind of fertilizer than you do, if they want to have weeds in it, that's really none of your business. The important thing is that yours is the way you want it to be.

Amor:capacidade e disposição para permitir que aqueles que você ama façam suas próprias escolhas, sem insistir que satisfaçam a você.

The supreme Taoist leader always leaves people to choose and pursue their own way of life, their own conception of the good.

Only you can improve your lot or make yourself happy. It is up to you to take control of your own mind, and then practice feeling and behaving in the ways that you choose.

So raise your children to be self-sufficient, to make their own decisions as soon as they're able, and to feel pride in the decisions they do make.

What was driving you was the trajectory of Well-Being. What was driving you was the understanding that you weren't born to be dependent on someone else. And you did not come to use someone else as your excuse for not being in alignment.

Being true to yourself means being devoid of the need for an external support system.

You are behaving as a fool if you look outside of you for an explanation of how you should feel or what you should do. Taking credit as well as responsibility for yourself is the first step to eliminating this erroneous zone. Be your own hero.

The ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you.

Decide that any and all unhappiness that you choose will never be the result of someone else, but rather that it will be the result of you and your own behavior. Remind yourself constantly that any externally caused unhappiness reinforces your own slavery, since it assumes that you have no control over yourself or them, but they have control over you.

Stop waiting for others to change. Ask yourself why others should be different simply because you would like it better if they were. Recognize that every person has a right to be whatever they choose, even if you irritate yourself about it.

Lembre-se de que a vingança é apenas uma outra maneira de ser controlado pelos outros. Faça o que você, não eles, decidir que deve fazer.

Even if you are deliberately avoiding dominant people (parent, spouse, boss, child), you are still being controlled by them in their absence if you are experiencing emotional immobilization because of them.

Recognize your desire for privacy and not having to share everything you feel and experience with someone. You are unique and private. If you feel you must share everything then you are without choice, and of course, a dependent.

Keep in mind that you have no responsibility to make others happy. Others make themselves happy. Thus, you may truly enjoy the company of another, but if you feel it is your mission to make them happy, then you are a dependent who will also feel gloom when the other person is down. Or even worse, you'll feel as though you let him down. You are responsible for your own emotions and so is everyone else. No one has control over your feelings, except you.

You must learn to assume responsibility for the circumstances of your life without any accompanying guilt.

Love is a word that has as many definitions as there are people to define it. Try this one on for size. The ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you. This may be a workable definition, but the fact remains that so few are able to adopt it for themselves.

No pedir nada de nadie te da un auténtico sentimiento de libertad.

They want to be victorious and effective on their own, rather than gaining through the shortcomings of others.

Using yourself as a guide and not needing the approval of an outside force is the most religious experience you can have.

Rather than helping children to think for themselves, solve their own problems and develop trust in themselves, parents tend to treat children as possessions.

Know that if you're living out of a sense of obligation instead of choice, you are a slave.

effective parents don't want to be leaned on; they want to make leaning unnecessary.

I love this quote that's been attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." In other words, no one can depress you. No one can make you anxious. No one can hurt your feelings. No one can make you anything other than what you allow inside.