Quotes About Autonomy

When I work with other people, I have to try to make their vision happen. With my own, I don't think about it. The music has its own kind of agency.

In Europe, the director is the king: it's his vision. It's an auteur tradition.

Frankl's quote pops into my mind again. He's making space between stimulus and response in order to choose his freedom.

take the most seriously—are those they come to, little by little, on their own.

Infant (hope)—trust versus mistrust Toddler (will)—autonomy versus shame Preschooler (purpose)—initiative versus guilt School-age child (competence)—industry versus inferiority Adolescent (fidelity)—identity versus role confusion Young adult (love)—intimacy versus isolation Middle-aged adult (care)—generativity versus stagnation

Infant (hope)—trust versus mistrust Toddler (will)—autonomy versus shame Preschooler (purpose)—initiative versus guilt School-age child (competence)—industry versus inferiority Adolescent (fidelity)—identity versus role confusion Young adult (love)—intimacy versus isolation Middle-aged adult (care)—generativity versus stagnation Older adult (wisdom)—integrity versus despair

ultimate concerns are death, isolation, freedom, and meaninglessness

Some people hope that therapy will help them find a way to be heard by whoever they feel wronged them, at which point those lovers or relatives will see the light and become the people they'd wished for all along. But it rarely happens like that. At some point, being a fulfilled adult means taking responsibility for the course of your own life and accepting the fact that now you're in charge of your choices. You have to move to the front seat and be the mommy dog driving the car.

once they realize that they can (and must) construct their own lives, they're free to generate change.

Freedom involves responsibility, and there's a part of most of us that finds responsibility frightening.

The four ultimate concerns are death, isolation, freedom, and meaninglessness

At some point, being a fulfilled adult means taking responsibility for the course of your own life and accepting the fact that now you're in charge of your choices.

Rather than steering people straight to the heart of the problem, we nudge them to arrive there on their own, because the most powerful truths—the ones people take the most seriously—are those they come to, little by little, on their own.

stimulus and response in order to choose his freedom.

Further, for Rich, love was work and free choice, not a result of fate or destiny.

You can't please everyone, Gia. At some point you have to please yourself or your life will never be your own.

we are not a reflection of others' behavior, only our own.

no one had ever let them think that initiative was acceptable behavior.

As if one could do what one wanted with one's own body!

Organization can never be a substitute for initiative and for judgment.

They [the makers of the Constitution] conferred, as against the Government, the right to be let alone—the most comprehensive of rights and the right most valued by civilized men.

Individualism is rather like innocence: There must be something unconscious about it.

I am somebody. I am me. And I don't need anybody to make me somebody.

You can't let anybody else tell you what your choices are. Sometimes they won't give you the right choice.