Quotes About Connection

Once you have a handle on loving yourself, you can practice sharing that love with others.

A flowerchild in a 1967 interview made the most succinct description of ethical sluthood we've ever seen : "We believe it's okay to have sex with anybody you love... and we believe in loving everybody. You are already whole.".

Make it a point to let everyone you love know it.

nipple tug-of-war," in which two people both put on nipple clamps with chains running from one person to the other and lean backwards so that both sets of tits get a nice steady pull, is a good example.

Sex is for pleasure, a complete and worthwhile goal in and of itself. People have sex because it feels very good, and then they feel good about themselves. The worthiness of pleasure is one of the core values of ethical sluthood.

Knowing, loving, and respecting yourself is an absolute prerequisite to knowing, loving, and respecting someone else.

After duly binding, stripping, beating, torturing and fucking Dossie, Janet held her and brought her nicely back down to earth. Then we went upstairs for something to eat.

What would it be like to love without attachment, to open our hearts to someone with no expectations, loving just for the joy of it, regardless of what we might get back?

We are now hearing people refer to certain of their lovers as "friends with benefits," an interesting concept. Why shouldn't we share the manifold benefits of sex with our friends, making sex a natural part of the love and honor and loyalty and openheartedness that we already share?

One remedy for the fear of not being loved is to remember how good it feels to love someone. If you're feeling unloved and you want to feel better, go love someone, and see what happens.

the most successful long-term relationships are the ones with enough flexibility to redefine themselves over and over again through the years.

Love is not a real-world limit: the mother of nine children can love each of them as much as the mother of an only child.

Fighting is the ultimate act of intimacy. (...) Intimacy is based on shared vulnerability.

If you believe that you can use sex to shore up your fragile self-esteem by stealing someone else's, we feel sorry for you, because this will never work to build a solid sense of self worth, and you will have to go on stealing more and more and never getting fulfilled.

The binary nature of monogamy-centrist thinking tends, we think, to cause problems: you're either the love of my life, or you're out of here.

A great many people do believe that to be single is to be somehow incomplete and that they need to find the other half. [...] We believe, on the other hand, that the fundamental sexual unit is one person. Adding more people to that unit may be intimate, fun and companionable, but does not complete anybody.

A final note about love: One remedy for the fear of not being loved is to remember how good it feels to love someone. If you're feeling unloved and you want to feel better, go love someone, and see what happens.

I had never felt the kind of love for anything, or anybody like I felt for this piece of earth, right then. And for what we were about to add to it.

Then [after you find God's plans] you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart (Jeremiah 29:12-13).

The capacity for not feeling lonely can carry a very real price, that of feeling nothing at all.

Forget sex or politics or religion, loneliness is the subject that clears out a room.

It's very strange that most people don't care if their knowledge of their family history only goes back three generations.

Everybody has basically the same family, it's just reconfigured slightly differently from one to the next.

Depression is when you have lots of love, but no one's taking.