Quotes About Connection

When they were introduced, he made a witicism, hoping to be liked. She laughed extremely hard, hoping to be liked. Then each drove home alone, staring straight ahead, with the very same twist to their faces.

There's more to life than sitting there interfacing, it might be a newsflash to you.

I think the language needs to find new ways to pull the reader. And my personal belief is a lot of it has to do with voice, and a feeling of intimacy between the writer and the reader. That sorta, given the atomization and loneliness of contemporary life - that's our opening, and that's' our gift.

sometimes words that seem to express really invoke.

It's got something to do with love. With having the discipline to talk out of the part of yourself that can love instead of the part that just wants to be loved.

You can be at certain parties and not really be there.

David Foster Wallace

I guess a bit part of serious fiction's purpose is to give the reader, who like all of us is sort of marooned in her own skull, to give her imaginative access to other selves.

He said he didn't think Lenore should go to the G.O.D. Nobody ever finds anybody in a place like that, he said, People don't go to a place like that to look for other people. That's the opposite of the whole concept that's behind the thing.

Lonely people tend, rather, to be lonely because they decline to bear the psychic costs of being around other humans.

That having sex with someone you do not care for feels lonelier than not having sex in the first place, afterward.

Y qué pasa cuando a veces no hay opción sobre lo que amar? ¿Y si el templo va a Mahoma? ¿Y si simplemente amas? ¿Sin decidirlo? Lo haces simplemente: la ves y en ese instante te olvidas de la contabilidad y lo único que puedes elegir es amarla...

It's weird to feel like you miss someone you're not even sure you know.

I can't think anyone really believes that today's so-called 'information society' is just about information. Everyone knows it's about something else, way down.

The fact is that we're all lonely, of course. Everyone knows this, it's almost a cliché.

Having sex with someone you do not care for feels lonelier than not having sex in the first place, afterward.

Lenore, it's simply that I love you. You know that. Every fiber of your being is loved by every fiber of my being. The thought of things about you, concerning you, troubling you, that I don't know about, makes blood run from my eyes, on the inside.

learn to do nothing, with your whole head and body, and everything will be done by what's around you.

O está pasando algo, un extraño vínculo que siento que nos une, algo así como si se me cayeran todas las defensas personales y me abriera totalmente a ti? Supongo que debo esperar que no te aproveches. ¿Te suena esto como algo burdo? Tal vez lo sea. Supongo que me gustaría estar más tranquilo. No sé qué hacer salvo contarte lo que siento en mi interior, aunque parezca una torpeza.

There is something magical to me about literature and fiction and I think it can do things not only that pop culture cannot do but that are urgent now: one is that by creating a character in a work of fiction you can allow a reader to leap over the wall of self and to allow him to imagine himself not only somewhere else but someone else in a way that television and movies, in a way that no other form can do. I think people are essentially lonely and alone and frightened of being alone.

We're all on each other's food chain. All of us. It's an individual sport. Welcome to the meaning of individual. We're each deeply alone here. It's what we all have in common, this aloneness.

Americans seemed no longer united so much by common beliefs as by common images: what binds us became what we stand witness to.

And a funny thing happens. The man begins to like the Thermos woman. Not love, but like, which is something the man has never experienced before, and finds different, because it involves directing a lot more emotional attention to the actual other person than the old uncontrollable passionate love had involved, involves caring about the whole other person, including the facets and features that have nothing whatsoever to do with the man.

For me, art that's alive and urgent is about what it is to be a human being.