Quotes About Connection

Es más bien que estar junto a alguien consiste en buena medida en pensar en voz alta, esto es, en pensarlo todo dos veces en lugar de una, una con el pensamiento y otra con el relato, el matrimonio es una institución narrativa.

ignoramos lo que se fraguó entre la gente que nos precede, y lo más seguro es que lo ignoremos siempre, porque siempre llegamos tarde a la vida de las personas.

se tarda más en hablar que en echar un prefijado polvo, sea de nuevo mal dicho y para mejor entendernos.

volver a verla, nunca más volver a verla. Qué extraño contacto ese contacto íntimo, qué fuertes vínculos inexistentes crea al instante, aunque

stubbed it out in the ashtray she had been using before, for her equally

No siempre reconocemos las historias de amor de los demás, ni siquiera cuando somos nosotros su objeto, su meta, su fin.

Lo pasábamos bien juntos, pese a las brumas y las humaredas en que vivíamos envueltos. Pese a mi visión tan reducida, pese a todo. Era como si asistiera a su vida con sólo un ojo, el otro tuerto.

A veces uno se fija en alguien sólo porque ese alguien se ha fijado en uno.

Books have souls. Or so romantics like me tend to think.

Digiphrenia"—the way our media and technologies encourage us to be in more than one place at the same time.

But feedback is not simply a thing the giver hands you and you receive. The two of you are building a puzzle—together.

we have a deep desire to feel heard, and to know that others care enough to listen.

It's hard to hear someone else when we are feeling unheard, even if the reason we feel unheard is that we have chosen not to share.

Wherever you want to go, understanding – imagining yourself into the other person's story – has got to be your first step. Before you can figure out how to move forward, you need to understand where you are. The

Listening is only powerful and effective if it is authentic. Authenticity means that you are listening because you are curious and because you care, not just because you are supposed to. The issue, then, is this: Are you curious? Do you care?

This is important to me, I want to find a time to talk about it, and right now I'm not able to.

Saying "I'd like you to pay more attention to me" is more likely to produce a conversation (and a satisfying outcome) than "Is it impossible for you to focus on me just once?

Tell me more" and "Help me understand better . . .

Listen! Paradoxically, there is also considerable persuasion power in inquiry and listening. As we say in Chapter 9, listening is not just about taking in information. Listening well has an impact on the other person – it quiets their internal voice. When they feel heard and acknowledged, it is easier for them to hear you. And it also lets you know what they care about, which lays the foundation for creative problem solving.

Arguing Blocks Us from Exploring Each Other's Stories

If the block to their listening is that they don't feel heard, then the way to remove that block is by helping them feel heard – by bending over backwards to listen to what they have to say, and perhaps most important, by demonstrating that you understand what they are saying and how they are feeling.

Expressing Your Views and Feelings Your goal should be to express your views and feelings to your own satisfaction. You hope that the other person will understand what you are saying, and perhaps be moved by it, but you can't count on that. What you can do is say, as well as you can, what is important for you to say about your views, intentions, contributions, feelings, and identity issues. You can share your story.

Chanukah is one of the best known and perhaps most celebrated holidays of the year. it is a festive, family-oriented holiday that comes in an appropriate season: when the days have become the shortest and the desire to connect with family and friends is greatest.

El amor que resulta de la estrepitosa caída del mito constituye al máximo placer, la más sublime visión porque en ella se reconoce cada objeto, cada ser y cada evento como manifestación de la Realidad Iluminada, cálida y de la que, además, uno es parte y todo.