Quotes About Connection

How we feel about our kids isn't as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.

We ought to love children, as my friend Deborah says, 'for no good reason.' Furthermore, what counts is not that we believe we love them unconditionally, but that they feel loved in that way.

Children need to be loved as they are, and for who they are. When that happens, they can accept themselves as fundamentally good people, even when they screw up or fall short. And with this basic need met, they're also freer to accept (and help) other people. Unconditional love, in short, is what children require in order to flourish.

Our main question shouldn't be "How do I get my child to do what I say?" but "What does my child need - and how can I meet those needs?" In my experience, you can predict much of what happens in families just from knowing which of those questions is more important to the parents. You don't even have to know the answers they've found. The questions are what count.

The failure to adopt other people's points of view, to take an imaginative leap out of oneself, is one way to account for much of the behavior we find, troublesome, from littering to murder. (Kafka once referred to war as "a monstrous failure of imagination.") Perspective taking helps us at once to see others as fundamentally similar to ourselves despite superficial differences (in that we share a common humanity)

Ah, me resisto, mas me tienes toda, tú, que nunca serás del todo mío.

Y yo no tendré miedo de morenas ni rubias, pues cerraré los ojos y te diré: soy tuya.

Estás circulando por mis venas. Yo te siento deslizar pausadamente. Apoyo los dedos en las arterias de las sienes, del cuello, de los puños, para palparte.

Pongo las manos sobre mi corazón y siento que late desesperado. -¿Qué quieres tú? Y me contesta: -Romper tu pecho, echar alas, agujerear las paredes, atravesar las casas, volar, loco, a través de la ciudad, encontrarle, ahuecar su pecho y juntarme al suyo.

You, who opened suns in my heart

A man had given all other bliss, And all his worldly worth for this, To waste his whole heart in one kiss Upon her perfect lips.

All lasting business is built on friendship.

The only calendar I need is just outside my window. With eyes to see and ears to hear, nature keeps me posted.

It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow man who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring

Our whole way of living inhibits that necessary intimate contact with our fellow men, which is essential for the development of the science and art of knowing human nature. Since we do not find sufficient contact with our fellow men, we become their enemies. Our behavior towards them is often mistaken, and our judgments frequently false, simply because we do not adequately understand human nature.

A friend is a person who likes you for what you are, in spite of all your faults, all your shortcomings.

We are all alike, and we love to keep passion aglow at our feet, Like one that sitteth in shade and complacently smiles at the heat.

Exclusiveness in a garden is a mistake as great as it is in society.

I read like the flame reads the wood.

Wir waren 7 hungrige Mäuler, und wenn es nichts zu essen gab, hat er uns Geschichten erzählt. Man wird nicht satt davon, aber man vergißt." S.22

The fumes of wine fermented in my head; it was one of those moments of intoxication when all that ones sees and hears, speaks to one of the adored.... One would willingly embrace all who smile, and one feels that he is brother of all who live.

Quelquefois, il y a des sympathies si réelles que, se rencontrant pour la première fois, on semble se retrouver.

el beso es el contacto de dos epidermis y la fusion de dos fantasias...

Qui aima jamais porte une cicatrice.