Quotes About Growth

Only when we're all willing to own our emotions, and let our lovers and friends own theirs, does anyone have the power to change and grow.

When you are single, you have unique opportunities to deepen that relationship with yourself, to find out who you are, and to celebrate your journey in whatever relationships you may move through as you travel through your life.

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.

We bottom in order to go to places within ourselves and with our partners that we cannot get to without a top. To explore these spaces, we need someone to push us over the edge in the right ways, and to keep us safe while we're out there flying.

Listen to your fears: they have a lot to teach you about yourself.

Once you have a handle on loving yourself, you can practice sharing that love with others.

Let jealousy be your teacher. Jealousy can lead you to the very places where you most need healing.

We are paving new roads across new territory. We have no culturally approved scripts for open sexual lifestyles; we need to write our own. To write your own script requires a lot of effort, and a lot of honesty, and is the kind of hard work that brings many rewards. You may find the right way for you and three years from now decide you want to live a different way—and that's fine. You write the script, you get to make the choices, and you get to change your mind, too.

The word adventurer is sometimes used pejoratively, suggesting that the adventurous person is immature or inauthentic, not really willing to "grow up" and "settle down" into a presumably monogamous lifestyle. We wonder: What's wrong with having adventures? Can't we have adventures and still raise children, buy houses, and do the work that's important to us? Of course we can; sluts qualify for mortgages just like everybody else.

To truly know yourself is to live on a constant journey of self-exploration, to learn about yourself from reading, therapy, and, best of all, talking incessantly with others who are traveling on similar paths.

the most successful long-term relationships are the ones with enough flexibility to redefine themselves over and over again through the years.

One of the most valuable things we can learn from open sexual lifestyles is that our programming is changeable.

A friend of ours, when she trips over some surprisingly intense emotional response, says, philosophically, "Oh well—AFOG," which stands, she says, for Another Fucking Opportunity for Growth.

The simple things done consistently will produce the greatest results in your life.

If you don't change, then what's the point of anything happening to you?

If you don't have a spiritual practice in place when times are good, you can't expect to suddenly develop one during a moment of crisis.

Sometimes failure isn't an opportunity in disguise, it's just you.

I'm forever learning and that's why I'm always able to create new styles and new dimensions of hip-hop.

Over the last 10 years, we've learned that there's still no better way to succeed in college than to be well read.

I am so sorry that I hurt you. I know I'll make many more mistakes as time goes on, but I'll try not to make that one again.

Bigger isn't better; healthier is better. Steer clear of churches and youth workers who are driven by numbers, and surround yourself with those who are motivated by serving God faithfully and pursuing health.

The hard must become habit. The habit must become easy. The easy must become beautiful.

Born to be wild -- live to outgrow it.

More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.