Quotes About Growth

I have no more idea now of who I am than I did before. But at least I know that. And I'm starting to figure out who I want to be.

it's gonna hurt because it matters.

i have to cross the river of extreme awkwardness in order to get to the paradise on the other side.

So there we were. Once upon a time, during the storybook version of dating we'd gone through, I'd pretended that it was possible to love her when I only mildly liked her. Now I had no desire to pretend we'd ever be in love, and I liked her madly. 'Can we try to be wise with each other for a very long time?' I asked her. She laughed. 'You mean, can we share our fuckups and see if we can get any wisdom out of them?' 'Yeah,' I said. 'That would be nice.

But I think we were walking around like we were invincible. And maybe that's a bad way to live your life. Because you're not invincible. Nobody is. And maybe now that we've learned that, we'll be better.

When first love ends, most people eventually know there will be more to come. They are not through with love. Love is not through with them. It will never be the same as the first, but it will be better in different ways. I have no such consolation. This is why I cling so hard. This is why this is so hard.

In the darkest part of our hearts, we used to think that maybe they were right. We don't think that anymore.

Years into days. Days into hours. Hours into minutes. Minutes into moments. Moments into possibility.

shouldn't letting go be painless if you've never learned how to hold on?

The older I get, the more I lose my ability to breathe.

No, he finally said. I don't think you're boring. I think there are times you don't allow yourself to be interesting...but clearly that can change.

Well, I agree that 'trial and error' is a pretty pessimistic name for it. And maybe that's what it is most of the time. But I think the point is that it's not just try-error. Most of the time, it's try-error-try.

If you put enough closets together, you have enough space for a room. If you put enough rooms together, you have enough room for a house. If you put enough houses together, you have space for a town, then a city, then a nation, then a world.

It's just nice to see you out from his shadow. Because things don't grow in the shadows, you know? So it was frustrating to see you standing there...and really cool to see you step out of it. I don't know who this new guy is, but make sure when you're with him, you're not standing in his shadow. Stand where everyone can see you.

The older you get, the wiser you are - this is true. But you also question what use this wisdom is.y

It's always easy to blame other people for holding you back. But sometimes, the only person holding you back is . . . well . . . you.

Easy things are worthless, Laurie says. and I realzie he's talking to both Sean and me. It's the hard things that matter. Those are the things worth leaping for.

Maybe relationships could have fractals, too. And maybe the sense of loss was when you're becoming a fractal of what you once were to each other.

He wasn't always like this. Nobody is ever always like this.

We're told that the most powerful words in the world are 'I love you.' And while I think those are powerful, I think equally powerful is this phrase: I have started to know you, and I want to know more.

it's not his body that changes right away. it's something inside. he says he wants to be a little weaker. i don't understand. i say 'thinner?' and he says 'no, i want to be stronger in a different way.' not because of me, but for me.

And here we are, so different from who we were on September 10th. And also different from who we were on the 11th. And the 12th. And yesterday. Sometimes you see the before/after. And sometimes it's as soft as saying hello.

Fuck, I loved her then. And 'then' is blurring into 'now'. I'm thinking 'why not?' I'm thinking 'we're still the same people.

Reading is not life. Reading is creating LIFE in your head. And that can only help you so much in a storm...